Update - cousin having DW same year, and sister wants to be married 3 DAYS after me
Posted 28 August 2009 - 12:19 AM
Posted 28 August 2009 - 10:53 AM
But your SISTER! ohmigooooooooooood! i don't think they would even do that in a MOVIE b/c it's so unbelievable. how was your relationship with her before she dropped the bomb on you? when she said the "don't tell mom cuz i'm not sure" thing, it sounded like she just wanted to really annoy you and f*k up your mood, but knew that she wouldn't go thru with it b/c everyone would be so pissed. B/c honestly, it would not look good on her AT ALL. and it doesn't make any sense - for her, for you, for her guests. Wouldn't she want some time to bask in her own wedding rather than rush back from yours, then have a superspeed wedding right after? Anticipation is a big part, and for her to get married days after yours, a DW, who's gonna be paying attention? dumbdumbdumbdumbdumb. good thing you have a supportive family. i have a feeling she's gonna have to change her date, whether she likes it or not.
Posted 28 August 2009 - 11:40 AM
Posted 28 August 2009 - 11:44 AM
she just wants to steal your thunder! you should talk to her and tell her that it will upset you if she goes through with it...
good thing, your parents are on your side so i'm sure she will have to change her date!
sometimes family just want to drive you crazy...
Posted 28 August 2009 - 06:29 PM
WARNING - it's sort of long, but I wanted to submit the following message straight from my sister it in it's entirety
Here's an exact quote of her feelings on the matter, after I flipped out on her yesterday afternoon on the phone when she called to give me the news (And can you even BELIEVE that she wrote the following email to me today?)
"ok-As far as my NEW plan I will not speak to you about that right now. I can not believe the way you spoke to me yesterday. I am not going to allow you to think that YOU are something special and that no one else in the world should dare get married in the same year as YOU. How dare you think that Rachel did anything wrong for picking 4 months after you. She has the right to do her thing when she wants to do her thing and that has nothing to do with you. You are afraid that people are going to "steal your thunder." I think maybe that you need to worry about your self instead of everyone else and what they are doing. You do not have the right to tell anyone how to live their lives or what to do with them. You are so selfish and don't even realize it. Don't worry I am not going to pick your MONTH but you have no say so in that anyway. We have discussed this for a while and he is the one that really wants to finally do this. We are looking at homes and are trying to move forward with our lives and that is our business. I do not butt into your life or your decisions so please let mine alone. I am so sick of you thinking that you are the center of the world and that everyone is suppossed to bow down to you. You have a lot of growning to do little missy. You need to learn how to treat people. You are so self centered. You have broken the last straw this time."
Ain't family grand?! And although she said she's picked a different date, in light of how she's behaved, I told her she might as well try to get her deposit on the trip to Jamaica back because she can just stay the hell home as far as I am concerned.
I could care less if she invites me to her joke of a wedding or not, and I told her if she wanted a war within the family, she's got it.
Posted 28 August 2009 - 06:50 PM
Posted 28 August 2009 - 06:56 PM
As for your cousin planning her wedding within the same year- it totally sucks, but I have a HUGE family and if everyone "picked" a year, some might not get married for 5 years. That might not be the same scenario that you face, but just wanted to give another perspective. I personally think it's unfortunate for her. She picked a date after yours and announced her plans months after yours too. She is at quite a disadvantage so that's her own fault!
Posted 28 August 2009 - 07:00 PM
Man if my sister called me and told me she was considering getting married 3 days after me would have screamed at her telling her, she had her chance and sorry her engagement has now expired!!! HAHAHA!
The funny thing is, your sister is the one being so selfish and thinking she can do whatever she wants and doesn't think how it would affect you at all.
How dare she talk to you like that, she's just jealous that she's been lagging on getting married for over a decade!
I'm glad your mom's on your side, that's how you know you're right
Posted 28 August 2009 - 07:01 PM
Stay strong Im sure that everything will work out in the end. I suggest that you get your parents involve in this situation in order to bring some sense to her.
What does your FI say about all of this?
Posted 28 August 2009 - 07:06 PM
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