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So my sister just got engaged, 3 months after I did :l

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I definitely understand how this is hard on you - but you can try to make this a positive thing.. Think about it, when you are planning a wedding, that is sort of all you think about, want to talk about, etc... Everyone else gets sort of bored hearing about it because they have everything else going on in there lives and really aren't that interested in the details of wedding planning - but now your sister will be the same way and you can obsess over every detail with her..

Your weddings will be different enough that there is no reason to compete - and I think it's better that yours will be after hers.. When hers is done, you will still have a few months to focus on yours and be the center of attention again... And you get a whole weekend or week of wedding activities; she only gets 1 day...

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I didn't read the other posts, so sorry if this is redundant!

 

I actually got engaged 3 months after my best friend of 25 years. Unspoken rules are that you are priority and you get the first choices. I definitely think you should sit down with her and say that you know you'd definitely appreciate a time of it being all about her and you'd like to be able to focus on one wedding at a time as you will each be helping each other I assume.

 

My engagement was in February 2008 and I'm not getting married until May 2010. It's because my BF decided to get married June 2009 and I wanted us to be able to be there for one another, focus on the other ones wedding and not combine it. It worked perfectly and it was definitely the best and easiest route. I didn't mention my wedding until after her wedding and now it's all about me and I'm glad I get to have the spot light for once. wink.gif

 

After I went dress shopping and purchased my dress I was so greatful I didn't have to share that moment with someone else.

 

Good luck, just talk to her about it :)

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I literally know exactly how you feel. My twin brother got engaged a few months after I did and then got married this past weekend, 5 months before my wedding. He had a very traditional in a church wedding and reception. Yep, it did feel like he stole my thunder, and I think a few family members have decided not to go to my wedding because of his.

 

but at the same time it kept people from bothering me too much about how my wedding plans were going. Also, my FI (who was a groomsman) and I (bridesmaid) spent the whole wedding thinking about how ours was going to be so much easier, funner and better. Not to mention I save a lot of money on postage by handing out my invites at a "we're next" event my mom held for us the next morning. That brunch saved us having to plan a reception when we got home and allowed a lot of family members who are unable to make our tropical wedding say their congradulations

 

Has your sister asked you how you feel about this? I don't think it would be out of line for you to explain your feelings about this to her.

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Thank you ladies for your support. You guys are sooo great smile03.gif Seems that this does happen quite often to others too. Hearing the way you handled it is helping alot. Thanks Ladies :)

 

My Mom actually asked my sister if we could do a seperate dress shopping trip for her because my MOH who was coming in the same car as me and Mom needed to get home to her kids. So that's taken care of.

 

As for the other issues - I'm sure we'll work it out. My sister takes off to Florida for a week or two soon so I'll wait till she gets back to discuss things with her. In the meantime - I'm definetly going to get my Save-The-Dates out asap so that the people who have to fly in to both weddings RSVP to ME first. lol.

 

I'll keep y'all posted :)

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I don't think you'll need to worry about out of town guests choosing your sister's wedding over yours.. I think she may have to worry about guests choosing YOUR wedding over hers... It's a lot easier to convince guests to travel to the sunny beaches of Jamaica rather than some other city in Canada or the states :)

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I just wanted to give a bit of an update here:

 

Everything has been working out great so far. We decided to have all my celebrations (shower, bachlorette, etc) AFTER her wedding so we don't have to try to plan all those with eachother. This way, I also get the summer and fall months for my parties, which are MUCH better weather up here Canada for get-togethers.

 

I gave my Mom my wedding dress design first and my sister will have to come up with something different. haha.

 

Also, while she wanted to be married in June, her date is not near my 30th birthday in June, which will obv. be an important celebration for me.

 

So far, so good! I'll be keeping ya posted!! Thanks for your support ladies!

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Glad everything is working out - I know how you felt in the beginning its overwhelming and you stress about everything.

 

Also That is so awesome your mom is making your dress - super jealous!

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