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    Posted 04 June 2009 - 05:33 PM

    As of right now we do not have any plans to go on a honeymoon. My sister had offered to pay for a honeymoon to Greece but she just had a baby (2 weeks ago) and her husband has been laid off for a couple of months now. That being said I COULD NOT take any money from her plus they are attending the wedding. She has a lot on her plate. I just wanted some time alone with no one around!
    Thanks ladies I really apprciate all your help

    #12 Hartyt509

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      Posted 04 June 2009 - 06:28 PM

      No you aren't being selfish and he needs to cut the apron strings with his bloody mother! She won't frigging melt or turn to stone if she travels on her own lol

      I've just had 2 and a bit weeks with my aunt and I want to rip her frigging head off because we didn't have ONE day by ourselves! Therefore no you aren't selfish you just want some time together

      #13 EDSROSA

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        Posted 07 June 2009 - 08:53 PM

        Sooooooo......after a couple of days of fighting, he is telling me to make reservations at a resort! I swear I think he does things on purpose!!!! Like I don't have enough drama to deal with!!!!!! Oh well, it was worth the fight!!!

        #14 JenniferSS



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          Posted 07 June 2009 - 09:34 PM

          Good for you- now make them quick before he changes his mind again!

          #15 EDSROSA

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            Posted 07 June 2009 - 09:42 PM

            It was booked about 10 mins after the conversation!! LOL

            #16 YoursTruly

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              Posted 10 June 2009 - 01:40 PM

              Don't think you are selfish at all-ask DH isn;t the idea of a wedding to cater to each other or your guests? re you spending the rest of your life with him or you, he and his mother?? There will be plenty of time afterwards , even during your wedding , however, the mother , family and friends need to respect the fact that you need couple time alone. Hell, the first few days you will be running around doing administrative stuff so that is even less time with DH!

              #17 Seven

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                Posted 10 June 2009 - 01:43 PM

                Hey, I'm from Queens too! I do not think you are being selfish. Give it some time and talk to him again and state how you feel calmy and politely. I am sure he will see your point and it will all work out. :)

                #18 itsfinallyhere

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                  Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:10 PM

                  I am so glad it all worked out for you. It was crazy to think that you are being selfish by wanting this. I think it is perfectly normal to want this. If only I could dothe same as well! I also think that men tend to say we are being selfish when it is really them being unreasonable and unwilling to admit it! LOL That stupid make ego getting in the way again!

                  #19 jajajaja

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                    Posted 10 June 2009 - 02:41 PM

                    We stayed a week with guests and then a week by ourselves. THankfully they all left, but honestly the week after they left was so nice. DH and I got to do whatever we wanted without considering others. When we were with guests, we always felt like we needed to keep tabs on everyone, play hostess, invite them to dinner, etc. You def need a break to just relax, unwind, and celebrate being married. Explain that to him- he probably will see it that way too!
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                    #20 Ana


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                    Posted 10 June 2009 - 03:22 PM

                    we did the same thing as Rachel...one week with guests and one week alone. It was perfect! We both really needed to relax without all the people being around.

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