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#431 cougs

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    Posted 17 August 2009 - 02:38 AM

    brandy, i've been there. if you know that your FI loves you for YOU, not what you look like, you're ahead of the game. that love will translate into him being there for you and helping you regain a healthy weight, and more importantly, a healthy mind ... one that allows you to love yourself again.

    you have had a really very significant gain if there has only been a year and a half between a size 12 and a 20. i too have had very large gains in very short time, but not quite as rapid as yours. you may want to see your doctor just to be sure there isn't a somewhat serious health issue (i.e. thyroid problems, diabetes) or even a drug side effect that is causing such rapid gain. while there, you could also discuss a nutritional/exercise plan that may work better for your lifestyle.

    as for dieting ... we all fall off the wagon. going out of town and cheating once or twice shouldn't make you pack it up altogether. don't beat yourself up over it ... just start back up again. lord knows the stresses of planning a wedding can cause us all to overeat once in awhile. we're only human.

    and please, if thoughts of picking up your old bulimic ways have been crossing your mind, PLEASE consider counseling. your FI loves you and i'm sure wants you to be healthy inside and out. don't sabotage the long, happy future you could have with the man you love.

    #432 ~*Lisa*~

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      Posted 17 August 2009 - 08:33 AM

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      Hi ladies... just found this thread and I love it! Thanks for making me feel better :) I am stressing about the dress, a bthing suit in front of guests, the TTD and maybe a boudoir book - all of these depend on my shape. Yuck!!
      I used to stress about that kind of stuff but not so much anymore. My FI, friends and family love me no matter how I look. I've accepted the way that I look, so wearing a bathing suit doesn't bother me anymore. If others don't like it, then don't look at me, that's my feelings!

      Don't stress about the dress, bathing suit, TTD, boudoir. Your FI LOVES you because of YOU, not the way your body looks. So I say go for it!! Show off those curves girl! Love what you got!!
      hey ladies....sitting here in tears, so I thought I'd write really quick and hopefully find some words of encouragement. FI and I went on a float trip last month with a bunch of friends. The pictures just got posted on facebook tonight and I wanted to PUKE. I don't even look like me anymore. I don't know where I lost track of watching my weight, but I've become a fricken balloon. Haven't stepped on the scale in months. I didn't even notice the weight gain until a couple of months ago when my own mother asked me if everything was okay with me.
      It's so weird, when I got engaged to FI a year and a half ago, I was a curvy size 11/12, and still getting away with the sorority lifestyle of partying all the time and drinking my calories.....today I'm sitting here in size 20 pants while I write this and bawl my eyes out. I HAVE to get this weight off. I'm almost as big as I was at my highest weight when I was a sophomore in HS, and that was the point where I developed an extreme case of bulimia. Feel like I'm at my wits end. I was going to try the cheat your way thin diet, but had to go out of town on day 3, so that kind of killed it.
      Sorry to just go off on here like this, but I think I'm about to lose it, and I had to get this written down and out of my head. I've never been a tiny girl by any means, but it's bad when I'm looking at myself and I don't recognize what I see. The camera doesn't lie. I'm going to get off of here though, and take a walk before bed.
      Brandy - We've all been there. My weight has always been an issue for me but you have to love yourself for who you are, not how you look. I totally agree with everything that Lisa said. If you think you're heading in the wrong direction, seek some help. I would hate to see you head back to your old bulimic ways, you're better than that!!! I've accepted the way that I look and so does my FI and family. My FI tells me every day that he loves me the way that I am and not to lose weight for him because it doesn't matter to him how I look, it's my heart that he loves. I want to lose weight for myself, for my health. So when you are ready to do that for yourself, it'll be easy! Please keep your chin up girl!!

      #433 brandynd

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        Posted 17 August 2009 - 05:26 PM

        Thanks so much ladies. I guess I should specify that I felt sick more in the figurative sense of the word...just looking at those photos did me in....I guess it didn't help that yellow isn't my most flattering color. I don't have any plans of making myself sick again, that was a really really scary point in my life, but I was shocked when I realized that the person in those photos was me.
        On a brighter note, I went in to the doctor this morning....I haven't gained as much weight as I thought, which is a relief, but I seem to be packing it on in my hips and thighs, which does explain the DRASTIC change in size of clothing for me.
        I'm waiting on my partner in crime to arrive at my house, and we're going to get our memberships at 24 hour renewed...my birthday gift to myself. The way that I'm choosing to look at this is that I have nothing to lose...the only thing that I can do now is to improve myself. I don't expect to be a size 2, but getting back to the point where I can be comfortable in my body again is the ultimate goal. I know that FI will love me no matter what the scale says, but to be honest with you all, I'm not comfortable with the way that I am now. My body doesn't feel like it belongs to me. That probably makes no sense whatsoever, but I don't feel like I'm me with the way that I am at this point. I have nobody to blame but myself, I allowed things to get out of control and sort of quit taking care of my body, so now I just have to suck it up and get back to work.
        I know I can do this. I've lost the weight once before, and successfully kept it off for nearly ten years before this little incident, and I can do it again. I'm just afraid of losing control of my body (my mother was morbidly obese until she had gastric bypass surgery about 5 years ago). To kickstart my weightloss I'll be doing a 2 week rotation of the cardiac diet. It works great (it's typically what they will put people on before they undergo gastric bypass), and it'll get my metabolism going again. I'll keep you ladies posted, because I WILL be losing 20lbs before Halloween....2.5lbs per week should be totally doable.
        There is no better gift that can be given than the gift of ones self.

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          Posted 17 August 2009 - 05:50 PM

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          I guess it didn't help that yellow isn't my most flattering color.
          and you probably are in the pics with a bunch of skinny biatches too, lol! that's always my problem! (or at least it's what i tell myself, lol)

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          My body doesn't feel like it belongs to me. That probably makes no sense whatsoever
          actually it makes perfect sense to me. i'm telling you, i've been there!

          well it sounds like you are on the right track, with seeing your doc, renewing a gym membership, etc. so i wish you the best of luck ... know that you can always come here for support or even just a good rant!

          #435 hockeymom97

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            Posted 18 August 2009 - 05:33 PM

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            just looking at those photos did me in.....
            I completely know how you feel. A couple weeks ago we went away for a long weekend and after the trip someone sent FI and I a pic of us together and I looked SO huge. I felt like crying when I saw that pic - but at the same time, it kind of motivated me to make some changes. I mean, I know I've gained weight, but I didn't think it was THAT much weight. Definitely an eye opener for me.


            Quote:
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            On a brighter note, I went in to the doctor this morning....I haven't gained as much weight as I thought, which is a relief, but I seem to be packing it on in my hips and thighs, which does explain the DRASTIC change in size of clothing for me.
            I'm waiting on my partner in crime to arrive at my house, and we're going to get our memberships at 24 hour renewed...my birthday gift to myself.
            That's awesome that you went to the doctor to make sure everything is ok, and going to the gym is definitely a step in the right direction as well. Did the doctor have any suggestions regarding changes to your diet or anything else you might be able to do?

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            I know that FI will love me no matter what the scale says, but to be honest with you all, I'm not comfortable with the way that I am now. My body doesn't feel like it belongs to me. That probably makes no sense whatsoever, but I don't feel like I'm me with the way that I am at this point.
            Once again, I can completely relate to you. I know my FI loves me no matter what size I am, but at the same time that's made it kind of difficult for me to be motivated about losing the weight. Just because he has no weight issues, it's easy for him to bring home things like ice cream and not even think about the fact that I really shouldn't be eating that.

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            To kickstart my weightloss I'll be doing a 2 week rotation of the cardiac diet. It works great (it's typically what they will put people on before they undergo gastric bypass), and it'll get my metabolism going again.
            What's the cardiac diet? I've never heard of this before?

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            I'll keep you ladies posted, because I WILL be losing 20lbs before Halloween....2.5lbs per week should be totally doable.
            I think 2.5 lbs per week is doable with watching yoru diet and a great workout routine. You know you have all of our support on this!!! You'll have to keep us updated with your progress :)
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            #436 brandynd

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              Posted 18 August 2009 - 06:39 PM

              The doctor just advised me to cut out all the junk in my diet. I'm not much of an eater in the junk food department as it is, but I was always very active, so with the switch in jobs (I was at Hyatt for over a year working second shift at a desk), along with the fact that I haven't been as active as I was has caused the sudden weight gain.
              The cardiac diet is a 3 day diet that uses the chemical composition of foods to boost your metabolism. It's very controlled, and you have to follow the thing to a t in order to get results, but I've used it before (I had to lose my last 5 pounds to fit into a ball gown that was a size too small for sorority formal) and it's great. I'm posting the link below if anybody wants to join me in my 3 day stint. I'm starting it tomorrow morning....just got done shopping for everything that I'll need!

              Cardiac Diet Menu - See the actual daily schedule of meals.

              Just wanted to thank you ladies again for all your support! It's so hard to talk about these things when all of my friends are a size 2.
              There is no better gift that can be given than the gift of ones self.

              #437 ~*Lisa*~

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                Posted 18 August 2009 - 06:46 PM

                brandynd - I'm so glad you got some things worked out with the doctor!! I hear ya about the size 2 friend thing! lol You gotta love them, but sometimes you just hate 'em! :)

                #438 cougs

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                  Posted 18 August 2009 - 06:48 PM

                  haha yeah, it's like where can i get me some fat, ugly friends?!?!

                  #439 ~Stephanie~

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                    Posted 18 August 2009 - 07:22 PM

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                    haha yeah, it's like where can i get me some fat, ugly friends?!?!
                    I'm here I'm here Lisa! lol.
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                    #440 cougs

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                      Posted 18 August 2009 - 07:28 PM

                      hush your mouth, stephanie, you're beautiful!




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