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[sallytrip]

My FH and I are having a slight disagreement regarding the best way to let people know about where we are registered. He thinks we should just wait until they ask. I think we should tell people and make it easier on them.

I am of the mindset that most people get gifts when they go to a wedding. Rather than have them guess where we are registered or have them just buy us something random, I put together an online registry site to pass out the details. I think it is in my signature below.

He isn't a big fan. Any advice? I know there are lots of different opinions on this one but I wanted to hear from some of you.

[Rachelle E.]

I think the major no-no as far a registries are concerned is to NEVER include that info with the wedding invitation - just comes across as presumptuous and stuff.

You CAN include that info in invitations for any bridal showers etc that are thrown for you.

I think it's totally appropriate to have that info on your wedding website. . .however, if that's the ONLY purpose of the website (like it doesn't include any other travel info, pics of you guys, stories etc.) then I can see why your FI would be hesitant. Also, in that case, I wouldn't go around telling people to check out the site because if there's only registry info on there, they may feel like it's a big hint or shopping list. BUT that being said, if people are asking where you're registered I think it would be fine to tell them, and let them know the info is in your website as well.

I know that seems kind of sketchy and round-about but that's kinda how weddings are sometimes! lol!

[sallytrip]

Thanks Rachelle.

Our site lets us add a few photos and info regarding our wedding. I can also upgrade it to a full wedding website so as i get more time i can add stuff to it.

I agree with your advice. I am not going to put it on the invitations but may add it to save the date cards and emails to friends.

It is one of those tough things. You don't want to tell people where you are registered, but most people will eventually need to know. I would rather give out that info then end up with 30 vases

[Rachelle E.]

Lol! Yeah I hear ya! I included my registry info w/ my shower invitations and all that good stuff. . .still ended up with a car-ful of returns/exchanges! But it's fun. There's honestly no way to avoid the duplicates. I only got 1 of the vases I registered for. . .but I got like 3 margarita sets (pitchers, glasses etc) and about 4 food processors!! Lol! I think that's just how it goes. . . ;-)

[sallytrip]

I hear you. My sister ended up with a $250 store credit for a specialty retailer in Connecticut. She lives in Chicago. I am trying to avoid that sort of thing.

Thanks!

[CourtneyV]

With the exception of Rachelle's awesome advice of the website, the only other way that's proper "etiquette" is to let your wedding party (brides maids and grooms men) spread the word politely! If people go around randomly saying where they're registered it sounds like you're assuming gifts lol. People will normally either ask you, or your wedding party though... and word kind of spreads that way via other family members. And if certain people don't find out, they'll usually bring MONEY! This is one thing that you can let everyone else worry about, might as well take advantage of that break!!!!

[Jessica]

I don't think it was exactly in good etiquette, but I just included it with the STD's. I included a note that said we did not want, nor were expecting gifts, but that since some people had inquired, we made the info available on the STD newsletter.

It's just so much easier. I always hate having to hunt down wedding registry info. I rather the bride and groom just give it to me.

[BayBug]

I listed the registry on the website. Enclosed with the invitation I just put our web page incase they needed more information. Travel, location, ect.....

[Kseif]

I did not include it on invite/std - I felt a little weird doing that b/c people were spending so much $$ to get down to cabo.

We have had people just ask us/or parents directly. This has gone over just fine.

If you're having a shower, I would obviously put it on there.

[Christine]

I always get annoyed when people include their registry info in their invites...but I think a website is a great way to get info out. Also keep in mind that the old fashion way is to have your friends and family spread the word.