Jack & Jill, Shower or At Home Reception?
Posted 28 February 2009 - 06:29 PM
Who's having what? A jack & jill, bridal shower and or at home reception?
I've really been debating the thought of a Jack and Jill. I thought I wanted one for the party, but feel like a jerk asking people that are already putting money out for the destination wedding to spend more money at the Jack and Jill. Plus I'm really only inviting my close friends and family. So is it fair to invite people to the Jack and Jill that aren't even invited to the wedding?
I don't want or expect money or presents from anyone, so I definately don't care for a Bridal Shower... If I scratched out the Jack and Jill though, is it fair or jerky to charge for drinks if we have a reception at home? Like cheap, I don't want to make money off ppl, but how can I afford to have open bar for everyone that I want to invite to celebrate.
anyhoo, I'm torn, can you ladies please share with me what you're doing?
Thanks in advance! )
Posted 28 February 2009 - 07:26 PM
I don't think there is anything wrong with having a Jack & Jill. Even for non-destination weddings lots of people go who are not invited to the wedding.
Posted 01 March 2009 - 11:05 AM
If someone throws one for you, I think it is perfectly fine to have them invite people who aren't also invited to the wedding. This happens all the time.
As for throwing an AHR, I think it is better to go with no bar or a limited bar (IE, beer, wine and soft drinks only, and maybe champagne for the toast) than to have a cash bar. IMHO, your guests should never have to open their wallets when attending a party you host.
Posted 01 March 2009 - 11:57 AM
The old standard was if you had a shower then you didn't do a Jack & Jill event, but I think that has changed.
We are doing a reception upon return as we didn't have many guests going with us.
The jack and jills I have helped with, we usually sold tickets, so anyone could go, not just people that are invited the wedding. I had some of my friends buy tickets and go, just to go to a party and have a night out. We made a good amount of money that way.
Posted 02 March 2009 - 02:56 PM
and a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party which is not the same as a buck and doe as we're not selling tickets to it. this will be close friends and my siblings to go bowling, do stag/ stagette games then go to a bar and party
and a AHR cocktail reception where we're inviting everyone and their dog, that'll be about 160 ppl at a rented venue with catering and bar service. we're having open bar for the first hour or 2 then doing a toonie bar after that. if you buy your own alcohol for your AHR at costco you can make an agreement with them to return whatever isn't opened
Posted 27 April 2009 - 03:37 PM
Posted 27 July 2014 - 07:18 PM
I am not having an AHR. My family was pretty shocked when I told them, but I just feel I am going away to get married. Thats where I will have my party.
As for a Jack and Jill, I have told my family no thank you. However, I am not sure I am being heard at this point...
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