| Originally Posted by svetayasofiya |
Wow..... sounds like we are all experiencing the same disappointments. I am lucky all our family is booked, but last night (the day before final payment was due) my fiancee's two groom men backed out. I was shocked to say the least because they committed months ago and even paid deposits. They've known for a year about our plans and now all of a sudden... one can't afford it so the other is backing out too because he doesn't want to go alone. I couldn't believe it. I was working hard last night trying to get him a good rate for single occupancy and he says "if I knew ____ wasn't going to come I wouldn't have booked because I don't want to go alone". I was so hurt by that comment, I started to cry and said you'd miss your best friends wedding because you don't want to go alone? I was so upset I had to hang up. The worst is my fiancee is really upset and extremely hurt, but he tells them it's ok. NO IT'S NOT!! He even said to me last night that in the beginning he didn't think anyone would come, then when they all put down their deposits he got all excited... backing out like this is such a blow. He has one friend coming now. I have three bridesmaids and he has a best man. We are all going to be lopsided, lol
But seriously.... how do you get past the selfishness of others? We are really starting to see who our true friends are. I dunno... if it was me I would have been saving for months and without question would be there.
Sorry to hear. We ran into the same issue. My fiancee originally had 5 bridesmaids but 3 backed out. I had already asked 5 of my closest friends to be groomsmen and they all accepted. Now with only 2 bridesmaids it created an imbalance so I decided to cut 3 groomsmen. I decided keeping the guys who were partnered with the 2 remaining bridesmaids. Luckily my uys are cool and totally understood; no drama and no fuss. I still have them part of the wedding doing some important stuff for us like that veil, cord and coin (cultural stuff).
It works out as the 2 bridesmaids who remain are way more responsible and caring. The others who backed out seemed to be in their own little bubble and who wants that? I don't have patience for that sh!t.
All in all we have 78 people now confirmed. However there are a few key people that we really wanted to come who promised and now they backed out. My fiancee was really hurt and disappointed, but I told her not to worry about those people. What matters is the 78 people who have booked and are coming to spend an amazing week with us. Those are the people that took the time to save and plan their vacation so they can spend the week with us. Those are the truly important people and we are grateful for them.