Invitations Question? Advise needed...

[DarcyJAde]

Ok- So, my FI and I work together. He's a DR and I'm a nurse. So i have a lot of nurse friends I would like to invite ( and MANY that are already inviting themselves). Do we just invite EVERYONE in our department? Since it is a destination wedding most won't be able to make it. So far though a LOT of people are saying they want to come. Our unit is small enough where if someone wasn't invited EVERYONE would know. I'm not sure how to go about this.

I am thinking of inviting everyone, but is this a waste of invitations? Should I only invite people expressing interest? Also, there are a few peopl I barely know do I invite them?

 

Thanks...

Darcy

[DallasAshli]

Can you do a "community" invitation and put it on the break room fridge or something? That's what I did, but we only have 6 people in our office. I talked to each one and told them that they were welcome to come, but I didnt "expect" them to come (the nice way - not the "I dont think you will come" way).

 

As your date approaches, you will see that even though people say they will come, when it comes to actually booking they wont/dont/cant.

 

I cant imagine people you barely know booking a vacation to your DW. But if they did - would that be a bad thing? If I were you, I wouldn't want to create any drama by leaving out just a few people in such a small group. Keep the drama away from the office

[YoursTruly]

It is unbelieveable that people have no decency, don't practice a small quorum of decency or etiquette! How the heck r u going to invite yourself to someone's wedding If you are not close to most of these folks, why waste time mulling over that. Invite who you want to be there and call it a day. As you can see I have no patience for folks shenanigans!!

[Ayita]

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Originally Posted by DarcyJAde Ok- So, my FI and I work together. He's a DR and I'm a nurse. So i have a lot of nurse friends I would like to invite ( and MANY that are already inviting themselves). Do we just invite EVERYONE in our department? Since it is a destination wedding most won't be able to make it. So far though a LOT of people are saying they want to come. Our unit is small enough where if someone wasn't invited EVERYONE would know. I'm not sure how to go about this. I am thinking of inviting everyone, but is this a waste of invitations? Should I only invite people expressing interest? Also, there are a few peopl I barely know do I invite them? Thanks... Darcy

The only question in my opinion is do you want to invite them ?

You should only invite people you will be pleased to see on your day. Or for a longer period as it will be vacation for everybody.

I remember not having been invited to the wedding to a colleague I was relatively close to (having lunches with etc), whereas she had invited other colleagues of ours, but I did not resent it as I understand a wedding is personnal - private - intimate - not professional. I felt a little bit sad yeah, at first, but then I just forgot about it.

I would hate to see on my wedding day people I don't want to see... It's true that some people are pushy about it. At first when I said I was getting married and where, one of my team members said "I'll be there". And it's a guy I really don't appreciate personnally. I have to work with him but we're professionals - so I take it. But no need to see him on my wedding day ! I think it's just the rule you should apply. Do you want to have them with you on that day.

Good luck !

[DarcyJAde]

Thanks for the advice. It's tough, I work with MOSTLY women.

I recently went to a co-workers wedding and there was a TON of

drama because some people were left out. Since my fiancee and I

BOTH work there it's probably safe to invite everyone. Of course I

will be happy if they show up, but there are a few I could do without.

I doubt they would come anyway.

 

The community post is a good suggestion. I wonder how to go about

that... A sign up sheet, or talk to us if you want an invite

 

Maybe I will send everyone save the date cards and then do the sign

up sheet when i start to do the actual invitations.

 

Oh and yours truly- you think that's bad I had someone already "invite" themselves to be a BRIDESMAID!!!!

[Sal018]

I like the idea about a "community invitation" being put in a break room of sorts or design a nice email and send it to everyone. Being that it's a destiation wedding, most won't actually go

[jmiranda]

This is a tough one...I would do a "community invitation" just to not create any drama besides I dont think that a co-worker that you dont talk to will end up going. And also not everyone will end up going...WHO'S GOING TO WORK THEN LOL

[panther]

Are you doing a website? Have all the info posted for the trip and if people plan a vacation at the same time there is not much you can do.

 

Can they all realistically get the time off? Are they going to close the unit for the week?

[kerryjbrown]

Work is very tricky (we have this same issue with our parties 2x a year). I have always been told that if you have a unit or a team (like I manage 20 people), you either invite all or none. As this is a destination wedding, people understand that it is small and all the regular people you would invite are not invited (this is why we opted for one as we did not want a 350 person wedding versus 50 in Mx). We opted to not invite anyone from work except I made one exception which was a woman I have known for 5 years priror to her coming to our company (FI & I work together) and she and I walk in the 3-Day breast cancer walk together. She has not let anyone know that she is invited as she knows she is the only one. I would say just hte people in your unit and most likely those that you are not close with, would not attend.