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Need to vent --- why did I even invite my ex-friend?

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#1 Myen

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    Posted 16 October 2008 - 03:58 PM

    My old friend and I had a huge falling out a couple of years ago. We have one mutual friend and only see each other at the occasional function and I'll run into her and briefly chat with her on the train every so often.

    Anyway, I thought it would be a good gesture to send her and her family an invitation as we had basically grown up together.

    I had run into her on the train and gave her a heads up that I planned to get in touch with her to drop off an invitation. Well, later that week I call her house and the conversation went a little something like this:

    Me: Hi, its Myen. I was just wondering if you were going to be home for the next little while as I plan on dropping off an invite for you & your parents.

    Her: Well, uh.... ah.... um.... I'm right in the middle of something. Can you just leave it in the mailbox?

    Anyway, I was really put off by that, but I did leave it in the mailbox.

    She lives 5 mins away and I immediatly get home and notice on the our website under RSVP, that she indicated that she was not going to attend and the attached comment was "No"

    I thought the least she could do was wish us well or something like sorry I can't make it, but a simple 'No'

    She is just coming of as being rude about the whole thing.

    Ugh. I'm done with her!

    #2 Hartyt509

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      Posted 16 October 2008 - 04:12 PM

      I'm not sure why you're upset to be honest. You said yourself you hardly see her or have anything to do with her. Maybe she feels the same way.

      I know people are annoying but they are that in general just think cool one less to worry about and forget it. It's worse if its a really good friend chick

      #3 prettywoman

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        Posted 16 October 2008 - 04:19 PM

        I agree with Hartyt509. I don't unstand why u would want her around anyway. I would think the only reason she would go is to have something neg. to say. Don't that upset you.

        #4 DLyteful

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          Posted 16 October 2008 - 08:40 PM

          You were being the bigger person, by moving foward and inviting her. I know you feel like she should have given you more than a "no" since you took the bigger step toward forgiving and making the gesture of friendship. But obviously she cant appreciate that so I say just move on and be happy you were the bigger person. Now you know that she's not worth going out of your way for or doing anything more that saying hi on the train.

          #5 Yari

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            Posted 22 October 2008 - 08:11 PM

            I sort of think in your mind and heart you were hoping for a reconcillation. The fact that she dissed you again makes you hurt and mad. At least now you can write her off for good!

            #6 1elephant

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              Posted 22 October 2008 - 08:54 PM

              i agree with yari.
              can you delete her response so you don't have to look at it every time you check rsvps?

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