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I agree with Amarillis you need to get rid of the bridal party and when your dad asks why tell him.

 

You are paying for it anyway so tell him exactly how you feel you have nothing to lose and all to gain

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I am so sorry about the death of you FMIL. My FFIN passed away two years ago so I undersatnd the stress that can happen. It's a helpless feeling, you want to take away your FI's pain but there is little to do except be supportive in a sad and hectic situation.

 

I think you and your FI need to sit down and weight out the pros and cons. If you both want to go ahead with your plans, then do it. Don't let others come in between you and your FI on your day.

 

I agree Amarillis too! You need to have a real heart to heart with your dad. Also talk to him about your brother and that is your wedding.

 

I second it...no bridal party. It's perfectly fine. If your MOH and his BM can't but their drama behind then screw them. I'm sure you FSIL and BFF will understand, they can still come if they want but less worries overall. My MOH can't make it so I just said not wedding party...less worries...less drama.

 

Good Luck

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How did it go when you went to talk to your parents? I hope things are better now and you are more excited and happy about your upcoming wedding. This made me so sad for you and if I could, I would call your parents today! I am a mother and I can't believe that they would do something like this to you. If one of my girls were getting married, I would do everything in my power to make that day special for them.

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I Hope Everything Calms Down And Your Dad Gives You The Support You Need.the Positive Thing Here Is That You And Your Partner Still Want To Go Ahead And All This Drama Has Not Caused You To Part Ways.im Guessing That What Ever Is Decided Will Be Bitter Sweet Because The Upset Can Not Be Forgotten.my Brother And I Do Not Really Hit It Off And I Wonder From Your Post If Your Brother Has An Alcohol Problem If This Is The Case I Wouldnt Ant Him To Be In The Same Hotel As Myself I Hope You Get To Work Things Out Quickly And To Again Enjoy Your Wedding.just A Thought Im Sure You Would Have It Covered Have You Included Anything To Include H2b Mum.i Wouldnt Tell His Family What It Is And Then They Would Be Kinda Surprized If Thats The Right Word.families Are A Nightmare.good Luck With Your Dad And I Hope You Get The Best Resolution For You And H2b.xxx

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Hi ladies, thanks for checking up on me. Well I did go that night and talk to my Dad. I made a list a head of time and we talked about everything. He said he was giving me the $ as a gift even if he didn't come to the wedding. I was like Dad I don't care about the $ but you guys made it about that. He claims he doesn't remember saying he wouldn't pay if FH didn't come talk to him. That is what happens when you drink too much! I walked away from the conversation feeling proud of myself for saying how I felt but sad that my Dad is just not the person i want him to be. I just don't feel the father daughter bond.

With the stress of not having to come up with $15,000 in 2 months, FH decided to pick his father as a best man, he is happy with it I guess, still no bachelor party, no support, nothing. My MOH (FH's sister) still doesn't care but at this point I'm over it, she is a MOH in title only and I don't see us continuing a friendship after this. Shouldn't be hard cause FH wants nothing to do with her either. My brother has booked to come stay at another resort with his girlfriend, all i have to say is whatever. As FH said let's just hope he doesn't pick our wedding to make his comeback. And to answer the question, yes he has a big drinking problem!

FH's brother and his "fiancee" are still not coming, and all I have to say is thank god because they would try to ruin it! The same people that gave us hell about not postponing and all are planning their own wedding, wait by my calandar it hasn't been a year so WTF!!! Hypocrites!

My father and FH still have not talked and probably never will, oh well. FH and I have had a peaceful 2 months since we decide to just handle our own families. He goes when he wants to visit his, i do the same. We leave each other out of it and don't make the other one go. I'm very happy with this agreement.

I am truly looking forward to our wedding. It is not at all the way we thought it would be but that's life. I am marrying the person I love in the place I want so all is good. I know too that after December 5th i will breath a huge sigh of relief that FH and I can finally start our life together!

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Sorry you are going through this Danielle.

 

I didn't have the same kind of drama, but did have my fair share. There were numerous occasions when I wanted to cancel the whole damn thing.

 

If you don't mind me asking, why will the wedding cost so much? Are you paying for your guests?

 

I think you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with the bridal party. Ask them point blank if they want to opt out. It might be a little underhanded, but they might start being nice to you once they realize they are being a$$holes about the situation. If they do all opt out, it's fine to not have a BP.

 

Bottom line is that Couples is amazing and relaxing and once you are there it will be wonderful. I was sad the way some things went down and that some important people weren't there, but I didn't let it effect my trip.

 

Be sure to book a massage and enjoy!

 

hug2.gif Good luck!

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I am SO SORRY I am so late in seeing this. I am also SO SORRY you guys are going through this. If there is anything we can do, let us know!!! Want to go out drinking Saturday night? Sounds like you guys could use a night out. Let me know. We'll come to you.

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