| Originally Posted by gossip girl |
Reading that was so strange because believe it or not my FI has a father who is very similar to that. The only difference is my FI no longer has any type of relationship with him and his dad took off to live in China. (And frequently visits Thailand and then sends my FI emails about all the women there). In his last correspondence he mentioned that his visa is running out so he will have to marry "either his current commonlaw spouse who is 30, or his girlfriend in Laos who is 18" His dad is 70. Like that is just disgusting. My FI is completely grossed out by it. And I know it upsets him so much. His father would act the same way if he was invited to the wedding. Which he is not.
I understand a little about what you are going through because not wedding related necessarily, but this has caused several issues with our relationship. The best thing to do is talk to your FI about how you are feeling. And work on a solution together. You shouldn't take the brunt of this stress because it really isn't fair.
Just know that you aren't the only one with these crazy situations!!! Everyone has them and you will get through it
FI's dad trying to get him LAID before the wedding!!!
Posted 11 September 2008 - 11:59 AM
Posted 11 September 2008 - 12:02 PM
| Originally Posted by Amarillis |
I think you should find solace in sharing the crazy nutjob FFIL story with us.
You could however, discuss this AFTER the wedding with you MIL, or even your mom.
Based on what you have said daddy-whorebucks isn't really in the picture, so discussion after the wedding IMO wouldn't be bad... mostly because you nor your mom, nor your FMIL, will see him....
just a thought.
Continue to foster the relationship with his step dad. What a jerk!
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Posted 11 September 2008 - 01:32 PM
First of all- yes, your FI's dad sounds like a complete slimeball. Not just what he said, but for all things he's done to his son/family. Jerk.
All that aside though, I don't think you should be too concerned that your FI didn't go off on his dad. It's kinda pointless to have those types of conversations with idiots. What would really come out of the situation? Would the dad be more respectful and not try to pimp his son out to prostitutes? Probably not. The dad sounds like he is just a complete mess and I'm sure your FI recognizes that. Sometimes it's just best to look at the person for what they are and blow off all the shit that comes out of their mouth. KWIM? There is no use in letting their idiocy affect you.
I can completely understand why you are perturbed though. I'm not trying to convey that you are silly- AT ALL. I clearly think FI's dad is a f*ck up. I just don't think you should let him impact you and add more stress to an already stressful situation. Your FI sounds like a good man. He's honest, so you really have nothing to worry about.
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