This is it...

[NewOrleansbride]

Sooo... I am so sad that I have been absent this last month because I ended my engagement (and subsequent marriage) over three weeks ago. So I have been busy with dismantling a wedding and household.

 

I'm going to be completely honest... I had been having feelings throughout our whole engagement that we were not right for each other. Since we had been engaged I kept seeing couples that were so happy, and would do little things for each other, things I never had in my relationship and really wanted. I had resigned myself to the fact that I would never have that in my life. I couldn't do it. It wasn't right. He said it wasn't right too.

 

So, this is a VERY good thing. I am so happy that we found out now, rather than ten years from now (probably with children).

 

But... I have a load of stuff to sell. I was only 5 weeks away from my wedding, so I basically have everything. I've been trying to sort through all the wedding stuff for you girls (I've got a lot of good stuff- including a ton of OOT bag goodies) but I've been too consumed with cancelling the wedding, taking apart my household, trying to work, etc. that I have not gotten to it. BUT.. I promise that by next week (as long as I can learn how to use paypal) I will be posting goodies for sale. Lots of them!

 

So, wish me luck, and I hope somebody wants the stuff I have. I don't want it anymore.

 

XOXO

[Kat81]

Rachel, I am so sorry you are going through all this. It sounds like it was for the best but that never makes it any easier. Let me know if there is anything I can help you with. Seriously, anything. I can even post things for you if you need me to.

[CTHawaii14]

Im so sorry that you are dealing with all of this right now. Im glad that you found out before hand but it is still no fun. I wish you the best of luck!

[sally]

I'm sorry you are going through this but is better to find out now I guess xx

[jesjess]

Thats awfull, you must be so sad...I wish you all the strength you need to get trough this difficult time, maybe I can undo you from some stuff.. All the best..

[Reba2009]

I am so sorry to hear that. It is always hard when things come to an end. I can't offer to help you post things since I do not know how to! lol But I can offer to take some things off you hands when you are ready! Stay strong!

[seaprincess]

Sounds like you are in an amazing and positive frame of mind. If it wasn't right, it is definetly better (and believe it or not easier) to lay it to rest now than after you are married and if children are involved. Keep staying strong and I know that there are brides on here that would gladly buy your stuff off you, myself included. Good luck!

[DanielleNDerek]

I'm sorry Rachel but it sounds like you did the right thing for both of you.

[Alyssa]

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Originally Posted by NewOrleansbride Sooo... I am so sad that I have been absent this last month because I ended my engagement (and subsequent marriage) over three weeks ago. So I have been busy with dismantling a wedding and household. I'm going to be completely honest... I had been having feelings throughout our whole engagement that we were not right for each other. Since we had been engaged I kept seeing couples that were so happy, and would do little things for each other, things I never had in my relationship and really wanted. I had resigned myself to the fact that I would never have that in my life. I couldn't do it. It wasn't right. He said it wasn't right too. So, this is a VERY good thing. I am so happy that we found out now, rather than ten years from now (probably with children). But... I have a load of stuff to sell. I was only 5 weeks away from my wedding, so I basically have everything. I've been trying to sort through all the wedding stuff for you girls (I've got a lot of good stuff- including a ton of OOT bag goodies) but I've been too consumed with cancelling the wedding, taking apart my household, trying to work, etc. that I have not gotten to it. BUT.. I promise that by next week (as long as I can learn how to use paypal) I will be posting goodies for sale. Lots of them! So, wish me luck, and I hope somebody wants the stuff I have. I don't want it anymore. XOXO

Rachel,

Wow - I am so sorry you are going through this but it sounds like this is the best decision for both of you. I am so proud of you for having the courage to follow through with your gut feelings and not just go along with the engagement / wedding / planning b/c it was easier.

You will have the man of your dreams b/c you are in touch with who you are as a person. All of the lessons learned from this experience are going to help guide you in the direction of true happiness and what is coming next.

Stay strong and I hope you stick around with us and keep us updated on how you are doing!

xoxo
alyssa

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Originally Posted by Kat81 Rachel, I am so sorry you are going through all this. It sounds like it was for the best but that never makes it any easier. Let me know if there is anything I can help you with. Seriously, anything. I can even post things for you if you need me to.

Rachel, I am with Kat - i can help you post stuff and learn how to use PayPal - just PM me OK?

[Copita]

Rachel,

 

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I can only imagine how devastating this must be.

But you are right. It's so much better figuring this out before you go through with the wedding an dpossibly children later.

And it also leaves open the fact that you're The One is out there. You just haven't met him yet. Or have you?

Sending you lots of hugs through this time.