Strip Club for Bachelor Party?

[boscobel]

I am absolutely fine with strip clubs. When I dated my ex, there were a few strippers in our group of friends, so I had close dealings with these girls personally as well as going to clubs with them. I think it's a personality thing. I am one of the most insecure people ever, yet, I've never been a jealous type. As long as they are just having fun I don't see anything wrong with it. Matt and I have never gone to a strip club together though...

[LisaG]

Argh!! I hate this subject. I felt the same way when we went through it. I hated that all of DH friends wanted to go - and would most likely end up there at the end of the night. DH HATES strip clubs. He hates spending that much on a drink to look at skanky women or at least that's what I call them.

I told him he could go if he wanted....

His ended up much worse that a strip club!!!! They had 2 stripper come over to their friends house (all of them drunk after gofl) and swim naked with them all afternoon. Yep - 2 naked strippers all day!!

Luckily DH called me and told me what was going on. They did give him a lap dance but these girls were friends with one of the guys so they hung on him the entire time.

I had a problem with it but it wasn't his plan and he didn't know they were coming AND he told me they were there. What do you do?? I trust him 100% so I was like - - whatever!

[LCBride2007]

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Originally Posted by LisaG His ended up much worse that a strip club!!!! They had 2 stripper come over to their friends house (all of them drunk after gofl) and swim naked with them all afternoon. Yep - 2 naked strippers all day!!

Eeeewwww - see, that's where I draw the line. I was so pissed when Paul ended up at one of those parties.

This was my post from long before my wedding ...

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Originally Posted by AnnR Funny I just came across this thread when I was looking for something else. I voted "sure, why not" - Paul may end up going to one, but I think it would be more for the ritual thing than anything else. I actually doubt he'll end up going - he'd rather go play paintball with the boys. I do, however, have a problem with bringing strippers or dancers into the house though. I'm not exactly sure why - but I feel like more happens when guys do that. Paul went to another bachelor party where they hired 2 girls - and after the dance, the girls gave "private dances" in the back bedroom. I'd bet $$ that there was no actual dancing involved! Paul agreed (no, he wasn't one that did it, but he told me who did, and I am not surpised, this guy is a sleeze). Anyway - I totally trust Paul, so it's not an issue.

Ironically, the guy that threw the party STILL feels so bad about it, because all of the women were pretty upset. He now realizes how sleezy it was. We all refer to them as prostitutes ... I mean, they were paid, had sex, ... what's the difference?

[Jessica]

thank god Brian isn't into strip clubs so this was not an issue. because i would have said "no f'ing way!" for the following reasons:

 

1. i think it's gross and disrespectful that marriage is viewed as a death sentence and you have to get one last up and personal peek at another chick's goodies before you get married.

 

2. no freaking way is he using our money to put down some skanky panties.

 

3. there's no way he'd be ok with letting some guy feel me up, so why is it ok for him to have some naked girl rub up against him.

 

as your future husband he should respect the fact that you feel uncomfortable with this. who is more important? you or some strippers. and if his friends are at all his real friends they will respect you as his fiance and find something else to do!

[Maura]

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Originally Posted by JessicaLovesBrian thank god Brian isn't into strip clubs so this was not an issue. because i would have said "no f'ing way!" for the following reasons: 1. i think it's gross and disrespectful that marriage is viewed as a death sentence and you have to get one last up and personal peek at another chick's goodies before you get married. 2. no freaking way is he using our money to put down some skanky panties. 3. there's no way he'd be ok with letting some guy feel me up, so why is it ok for him to have some naked girl rub up against him. as your future husband he should respect the fact that you feel uncomfortable with this. who is more important? you or some strippers. and if his friends are at all his real friends they will respect you as his fiance and find something else to do!

well put, jessica, well put!!!!!!!

[Spazz]

I had no problem with Mike going to one. His bachelor party was a few weeks ago and about 25 guys went up to the Poconos for a 3 day weekend. He said they just drank and played poker for most of the time. On the last night, the guys surprised him when a bus showed up to the house and drove them all to a strip club. He said it wasn't his thing (it never has been), but obviously he went along with it. I'm sure he was bought lap dances, which sorta grosses me out, but I trust him 100% in that department, so I didn't even think twice about it.

[DanielleNDerek]

I'd rather fi go to a Phillies game or something but I'd rather him go to a strip club than one of those house parties where strippers come. I've heard one too many stories about those parties and how nasty they get. fi doesn't like strip clubs anyway, at least that what he tells me

[lucy106]

Jessica, I couldnt agree on ounce more!!!! I just dont understand it. I know my FI is uncomfortable with it but some of his buddies I dont trust! All I can do is make my feelings known, which trust me I have.

[sunnydaes]

hey, why not...

[Jacqueline]

Aw what a sucky feeling ( I've been to strip clubs with friends and once with Joe, after hours and I dont mind them because sitting there drinking is one thing, it can be fun, but to have my FI sitting in a chair, center of attn, and having some stripper rubbing all over him would make me not so happy either. It's just that I feel bachelor parties are very over rated and I never understood them. You're about to marry the woman of your dreams so you celebrate by havinig dirty sweaty basketball size tits in your face? I guess its a man thing- which is f*cking a lame excuse if you ask me. It's not an every man thing cuz my sisters hubby didnt do it, he thinks its nasty and disrespectful- ahh why cant all men be likehim!? But its def disrespectful ecsp if it honestly bothers the other person- which in this case it does (

 

Joe has dirt ball friends so that def don't make me feel better about this. One of them mentioned taking him to Vegas and if that is what they THINK they're doing- this girl will be writing a thread titled "WEDDINGS OFF- WHO NEEDS A BRIDAL GOWN!" I trust Joe but still, it's an uneasy feeling picturing your man in Vegas (or anywhere) with his dirtball horny friends who dont have steady girlfriends. Joe will not be going unles of course he wants World War III to take place in his living room.

 

If YOU were going to have a stripper put his sexy sweaty oily body all over you, and you had to wwatch him dance sexy around YOU- he'd have a canary too I'm sure. I don't think it's fair he knows your upset and he still wants to do it. He does have a say in what they do, that a bunch of crap. I'm sorry your feeling stressed about it, it does suck and I feel ya. But try to remain cool and talk to him again about it. If you do trust him honeslty, just remem that its for one night.

 

** ANY MEN OUT THERE to make sense outta this over rated night out?