Do you have a FI that now has a opinion?

[JennyK]

I WISH my Fi had an opinion.. he doesn't just get involved with wedding planning. I have to give him a short list and even that takes FOREVER to get done.

[Kelly C]

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Originally Posted by JennyK I WISH my Fi had an opinion.. he doesn't just get involved with wedding planning. I have to give him a short list and even that takes FOREVER to get done.

Be very careful for what you wish for!! LOL That is how this whole thing got started. I will choose more wisely next time trust me. I wanted to kill me yesterday!

[MoonPalacePookie]

This is a great thread. My FI didn't have an opinion on anything, until i made the mistake of sending him a link of some centerpieces I liked. He thought they were tacky and put it upon himself to save our wedding from the tackiness I was planning. We just about called off the wedding over centerpieces. Mind you, he didn't do anything, just called everything i wanted to do "tacky." So we had a nice talk that involved a lot of tears and guilt trips and threats and now he happily accompanies me to Michaels and loves everything I want to do.

[seaprincess]

HAHAHA - LOL

 

This thread made me laugh immediately! Not that I don't appreciate that your FI's are all of a sudden jumping in, but I can't imagine that happening for us.

 

A few months ago, I asked if there was ANYTHING he had in mind in terms of vision, anything he wanted to include, not include...anything he cared about.

He looked over at me (after he tore his focus from Sportsnet) to tell me "Ummm, nope!". "Are you sure?", I said. He said, "Just let me know how much its gonna cost" - Fair enough

 

So far, so good! Last week someone asked him what he'll be wearing and he answered, "Lindsay hasn't told me yet".

 

The freedom is great, my MOH has 10 times more input than my FI, but I wish he had at least 1 idea!

 

We'll see how it all goes down in a few months!

[nikkianddean]

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Originally Posted by Kat81 My FI wants nothing to do with it. Every so often he will chime in on what to do and I just pretend to listen then do what I want anyway. He isn't allowed on shopping trips and I don't let him see the options. Not that I don't want him to be a part of it, but he thinks it's so easy and will just pick random things just to do it. He pretty much sits back and lets me do whatever. He gave me a budget and I promised to stay within it. If I come to a point I need another opinion I ask him and I usually get " I don't care Baby do whatever you want"

Kathi- Dean is the exact same way!!!

[DanielleNDerek]

my fi usually has an opinion on everything so i was dreading wedding planning with him. Thankfully my fil's reminded him time and time again that "you may be the groom but it's really Danielle's wedding and you should listen to her", i think those words must echo in his head because he's been letting me do whatever i want so far and everytime we disagree an hr later he agrees with me. lol

[JennyK]

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Originally Posted by Kelly C Be very careful for what you wish for!! LOL That is how this whole thing got started. I will choose more wisely next time trust me. I wanted to kill me yesterday!

LOL see my FI's only opinion is when I'm spending too much..

[Kelly C]

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Originally Posted by JennyK LOL see my FI's only opinion is when I'm spending too much..

Learn from my mistakes. dont ask dont tell

[Yari]

It's funny cause my FI has been pretty calm, cool and collected EXCEPT I asked him what he thought of a monogram Sarah made for us and he had all sorts of comments. I was so annoyed, but then I thought if this is the only thing he really wants to make an input on then that's fine...it is his wedding too. In the end after three monogram mock ups we got one we both liked.

[tvt]

Oh I feel you all on this. FI has an opinion on everything, and most of the time I appreciate his being involved.

 

But lately his input is on the budget side of things. I research and research and make a bunch of DIY projects, and then tell him what it is, and I'm all excited about it, and he's all "do we really need that?" UM YES we do. It is our wedding, we are not going to skip something because it cost us 250 bucks! we'll regret it after the fact, so lets just do it, and move on! And besides, we're hardly going to any great lenghts... and my parents are paying for a lot of the wedding. So when I want hyper color changing cups with our monogram for our OOT bag and wedding bar, then by god I will have them! Suck it up. It's 250 bucks, and it would make my heart so very happy!

 

oh, didn't know I had so much to say about this topic. ha!!!