Do you have a FI that now has a opinion?
Posted 07 July 2008 - 10:40 PM
He now decides he has an opinion on everything...From the wedding options, house decorating, the bridal registry and everything inbetween.
We were working in wedding goodies today and everything I picked out he hated. Including the beads I wanted to use on my foot jewerly.
I think the closer it gets the more stressed we both get.
Sorry guys I had to get it off my chest.
Posted 07 July 2008 - 10:48 PM
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Posted 08 July 2008 - 12:27 AM
Posted 08 July 2008 - 02:03 AM
Posted 08 July 2008 - 02:35 AM
Now let me preface this by saying, FI was the guy who initially said "just give me the date and time and I'm there baby." Nice, so I thought I had a green light to plan all the wedding details and just keep him updated from time to time. NOPE!!! Turns out this dude has an opinion on every damn thing. Even the colors, bridesmaids dresses and logo for our wedding. WTF isn't that shit only us girls care about ~ please somebody take a pencil and stab me in the neck.
I mean don't get me wrong, I'm glad he cares and actually gives a f*$K, but sometimes I feel like I go out and do all the legwork (researching, making phone calls, sending out emails, etc.) and then it utimately goes to him to decide whether it gets past the chopping board and if not then I'm back at square one.
Sorry, had to vent. Damn, that felt good
Posted 08 July 2008 - 02:50 AM
any time i asked him for an opinion, he said "i really couldn't care less...i don't care" and i got frustrated with that, so i guess it served me right.
Posted 08 July 2008 - 07:37 AM
It took FI and I a long time to get the same picture. I had to give a little from what I originally wanted and so did he.
We spent many days at Michaels, Joann, and other places just trying to make sure we had a full understanding of what the other thought was good vs. cheesey; tacky vs. fun.
In the end, we've still argued about a bunch of things. FI didn't see the point in tying ribbons on the fan handles - until he saw them and loved them.
I wanted the EXACT same logo/colors on everything. FI didn't want to give people things in fushia and carribean blue. So, I gave in and did our OOT bags and contents with two logos, in a different color than everything else. And they turned out great.
So, my advice is to hear what they have to say. Show (not tell) them what you want to do (guys are very visual). And then concede a few points and win a few points. Just be sure that the battles you're picking are the important ones - because you don't want to win on putting baby's breath in the bouts, only to have to concede to having scantily clad waitresses serve flaming tequila shooters.
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Posted 08 July 2008 - 08:11 AM
So I've decided he's got his mother going which is the only consideration he is getting - if he doesn't like it he can marry some bugger else lol
I'm doing it my way - its me thats sorting out the effing thing and also trying to get the cash together for it so he can piss right off lmao
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