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#11 Jessica

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    Posted 21 June 2008 - 08:06 AM

    I guess I'm an ugly girl!!!!!

    I didn't really care about my ring. I didn't even want a damn ring and I was kind of P.O'ed that Brian spent as much as he did on the ring he gave me. I mean, now I love it because he picked it all out by himself and it's actually very pretty, but I just think that money could have been used for something else.

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      Posted 21 June 2008 - 08:12 AM

      It really does strike me as odd that the size of the stone in a ring makes a damn bit of difference. Admitedly, My ring is big. But I BEGGED FI to get me a smaller ring - he refused and now I'm used to my ring, but it still bothers me when people comment on it's size. I actually had a total stranger say "Oh... he must really love you". As if the size of the stone is any indication of the depth of his feelings. Get a clue!

      I just think that not only with e-rings, but just about everything... the whole keeping up with the Joneses has gotten WAY out of hand.

      I saw a six-year old carrying a coach handbag the other day. What does a six-year-old need with a $150 handbag Kid needs to spend some time at Kmart.

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      #13 Hartyt509

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        Posted 21 June 2008 - 08:21 AM

        It never fails to amaze me how shallow people are. My ring was really cheap and has a sapphire in it but really its a dress ring lol I tried it on and it fit and I ended up paying for it because his card bounced (come to think of it he still owes me the cash lol)

        If I'm honest one of the main reasons we are getting married is because he is going to somewhere hot next year (he's in the forces) and so security wise it makes sense, but it doesn't change how much i love him even if I wasn't going to marry him.

        You should tell your friend that even if she gets the mega size ring when she comes to sell it it'll be worth jack shit lmao

        #14 Jenn79

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          Posted 21 June 2008 - 11:45 AM

          globeandmail.com: How big is your rock?

          I read this story last week and felt exactly the same way you do. When did the marriage start being all about the bling and not about the couple? Makes me so sad.

          I never wanted a large stone. I'm far too clumsy and would be sick if anything happened to it (knowing me I'd whack the ring on a shelf and the stone would go flying down the heating vent). I love the ring I have and wouldn't trade it for anything. Not only did my husband pick it out himself, but he designed it himself as well, based on pictures I had shown him (at his request) and rings I looked at when he asked me to point out what I liked.
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          #15 jean-marcus

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            Posted 21 June 2008 - 12:00 PM

            FIRST OF ALLLL>.. leave it up to the people at BDW to show me that there are still good and wonderful people out there who do still believe in true love and not a big ring as a downpayment. you all cheered me up :) i needed that....

            Originally Posted by TA Maureen
            Oh and I know another girl that made such a fuss about getting a certain size diamond so he got it for her even though it was way beyond his means. Well now that they are married she is making monthly payments on her ring. I find that hysterical!
            see. atleast she is making payments on it.. that shows some sort of hope... i mean if its so important to you what size diamond you have on your finger then let him get the band and you paya for the diamond... ill tell you what if i ever hear a woman complain about her diamond AND comlpain about womens equal rights i will take her and put her on a one way rocket trip set for outerspace haha

            Originally Posted by ethrondson
            I don't understand some people. I will admit that I had a ring picked out that I wanted and had it on the fridge for about a year. BUT, I didn't end up getting it, and I still love my ring.

            Jean-Marcus - the fact that this bothers you so much shows that you really do value true love as well.
            theres nothing wrong with dreaming... hell i dream of having my own private island.... but ill be just as happy if i dont get it . well maybe slightly less but it wont define my happiness.... and you better believe i still believe in true love.. i guess one reason i do what i do :)

            Originally Posted by Christine
            I think its a definite sign of immaturity if that's all a person cares about. When I was younger I had this idea that a certain kind of ring was what I wanted, then I met my husband and my priorities changed, Its really too bad that some women are so concerned with the rock that they don't think about what the marriage means.
            thats what upsets me. i thought my friend was old enough to know. i mean she is like 26 now i think... and i thought she was above all that.. i guess i was wrong about my friend.

            Originally Posted by shellb
            When my FI and I got engaged, I told him I didn't need an engagement ring. I personally think it's the wedding band part that is most important, the sign of your love and commitment to each other.
            You can't put a price tag on love.
            its cliche but its true...

            Originally Posted by JessicaLovesBrian
            I guess I'm an ugly girl!!!!!

            i beg to differ :)

            #16 Pisces

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              Posted 21 June 2008 - 12:12 PM

              I agree with everyone here; in fact, I specifically told FI that I would prefer a band without diamonds for the longest time because I knew he was waiting to propose because he wanted to be able to give me a specific ring. It seems like not only do people judge us a lot, but guys seem to be judged on how nice of a ring they bought their FI. It really makes me sick.

              BUT, how often do you hear of someone getting engaged and immediately everyone asks to see the ring? It seems to have become this cultural shift. It's almost like it's not okay to get engaged without a ring anymore.

              I remember my parents generation, most of them got married way younger. I do look at people's hands a lot just because I like jewelry and rings, and I have noticed that our generation's rings seem to be way bigger and showier (is that a word?).. my mom's, grandma's, aunts'... all of them have small diamonds or no diamonds.

              Maybe it stems from more superficial attitudes in our society, or about money issues. But it is all around sad.
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              #17 tvt

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                Posted 21 June 2008 - 12:13 PM

                i'm sure we all know people like this... which is very sad. i feel that some people have to have showy things to make themselves feel better.

                like the person said to Becks Oh he must really love you... I know a girl who got a really flashy, blingy ring, when I first saw it I said "wow, it's really sparkly" and she's like "yeah it's perfect cut, clarity, and cost a lot of money - he really loves me"

                i'm pretty sure my mouth dropped to the floor. if your marriage is defined by the ring on your hand... good luck on your marriage.

                #18 foxytv

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                  Posted 21 June 2008 - 12:53 PM

                  Wow, that is crazy!

                  I had a 'friend' talk behind my back about my e-ring. Very similar in looks and attitude as your 'frien' it sounds like.

                  And I had a lady from our corporate offices at my last job tell me how "small and dainty" my e-ring was.

                  I could not believe she would say somethign like that. First, it was neither of those things, and second, WTF?

                  I always told Tom I didn't want a huge rock ... so he got me a platinum Tacori that's out of this world ...

                  Who the $%#! do people think they are?

                  #19 Jenn79

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                    Posted 21 June 2008 - 01:16 PM

                    THe sad thing is not only brides are guilty of this behaviour. When I went dress shopping, one of the stores I went into made me feel so uncomfortable. The moment I walked in I got the once over from head to toe, with a stop on my ring finger. After that, only one woman (out of the five in the store) was anywhere near helpful, the rest ignored me and gave me the feeling that they wanted me to leave so more "appropriate" brides could use the change rooms. Maybe I was being paranoid, but I didn't feel that way at any of the other stores I went to.
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                    #20 EricaG

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                      Posted 21 June 2008 - 01:23 PM

                      [QUOTE=Pisces;432569]BUT, how often do you hear of someone getting engaged and immediately everyone asks to see the ring? It seems to have become this cultural shift. It's almost like it's not okay to get engaged without a ring anymore.QUOTE]

                      When FI and I got engaged, everyone was asking to see the ring. Of course I didn't have it, I only had the birthstone ring that he got me until we could afford an engagement ring. Once I got the actual engagement ring several months later, people started to notice it. I didn't go around showing it off like a prize, but everyone still seemed to notice. I will admit that I wanted a diamond ring, but I was perfectly fine with a small one, and in the end I got a medium one.
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