Originally Posted by Less is more
Question for those of you that have your invitations done or in the works...
Most of the sites I have searched say if you are paying for the wedding yourself, you don't have to put any of your parents names on the invitation...
BUT...I am afraid that because we are still 8 months to our wedding, our parents haven't antied up anything because they still have time.
There has been no conversation about anyone helping us (which is fine), but I am afraid they will down the road and then its too late to have them on the invitation... I was thinking of just putting "together with their families"....anyone have ideas??
(I really think everyone feels because they are getting themselves there, that is them helping us.....and its an expensive wedding to go to, and are totally forgetting they are going on vacation for a week at an all inclusive!)
We were in a similar situation when trying to figure out how to word things. The way things stand: My parents are paying a third (which is a lot for them), we are paying at least half and his parents have only agreed (so far!) to throw a third of what my parents are contributing. In a way it didn't feel right to give both parents equal "credit" on the invitations but in the end, it felt even weirder to do anything other than "Jessie and Chris, together with our families, invite...." so that's what we did. I'm really hopeful that his parents will throw in more (they have the means to) and I imagine that once guests from their side start rsvp-ing, they'll be more willing to pitch in. I don't want to sound ungrateful because I really am grateful...I am! My we do need a little help, especially if a lot of people say they're coming! I have a 7 page budget that I've shared with both families to show them exactly how things add up. We've actually budgeted in a couple hotel room nights to surprise my parents (and his if they end up throwing in more) with a paid room as a thank you. HOpe this helps....
I feel your pain but didn't want to offend anyone, so see above.....
Originally Posted by melfaybik
We are trying to decide what time to have the ceremony for our May 28th wedding and we are deciding between 4 and 4:30 p.m. Our photographer recommends 4:30 or 5 p.m. but I am wanting the ceremony time earlier so we can have a 5 hour reception instead of a 4 hour reception. Azul says that all receptions/private events must end at 11 p.m. The only problem with having a earlier ceremony is that my FI hates the heat and sweats easily.
Our photographer posted some pics to his blog!
Have a look at all the entries for Natasha and Guy!
I just wanted to check in and vent a little bit, I am very stressed! So long story short, our final payments are due today, which is fine and I have known is coming for a looonng time! Unfortunatley, FI's parents are apparantly super financially irrespsonsible and don't have their money ready to pay ON TIME!! So know I am supposed to do what? FI wants me to call the TA and just tell him to extend the deadline as they can't pay right now. I have just exactly enough to pay for myself and FI trip on my card or I would put their trip on. FI doesn't have a credit card either (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree?! ) I am so irritated and I don't know what to do. I can't help it his family is completley irresponsible and can't get thier *&^$ together. Anyways, I don't know what to do or what TA will say, but I guess I can only ask. I can pay a part of thier trip, the deposit has already been paid. So thanks for letting me vent a little, I am very upset. Also already I have more family coming than him, he only has his parents and one sister coming, so he is very upset too that they are not getting it together. I have to phone FMIL today, please give me the wisdom to be very calm and polite while speaking to her, cause I feel like saying a lot of things I probably shouldn't, like aren't you the parents? Start acting like it!! I wouldn't be so annoyed if it was just that they couldn't afford it, but they did just buy a flat screen t.v at christmas and his Dad went on a trip with friends, so what does that say!
Thanks ladies, I can't vent to just anybody, especially about his parents LOL!
I feel your pain.....we spent more time over the past few months stressing and worrying about other people's financial situations. We finally had a talk two weeks ago and said to heck with everyone. We went out of our way to give people ample notice (we sent out our STD's a year in advance) and we booked with DW.com so that they could have no-interest payment plans to budget as needed. We cut our bridal party last week because one won't be able to travel due to a new pregnancy and the remaining 3 still aren't sure and keep stringing us along rather than just being honest about their situations. We told them they will be "honorary" bridal party members and we can't wait to have them as guests still. And we have become comfortable that as long as we are together and healthy, everyone who is meant to be there will be and all the rest willl have to own their situations and lack of planning. Don't take ownership for anyone else's irresponsibilty and do your best to just focus on you and your FI as hard as it may be at times. Chin up! :-)
Originally Posted by MaggieandJay
Ok This picture does not do it justice but I bought the cutest Turtle table number holders last night from Etsy and since i have a turtle in my monogram I thought it would tie together nicely. We aren't doing too much decorating on the tables so trying to keep it simple.
Etsy Seller is bitspeaces
Just wanted to check in and let you all know that I'm still alive. To be honest, I've been lurking a little bit on here from time to time - reading posts and trying to keep up. But generally, I've been kinda avoiding the forum because everytime I read the posts I just feel more stressed. hahaha -
hearing about frustrated brides being moved to AB (OMG I am so sorry you're going through that right before the big day) to the resort being booked full for our wedding weekend (right after I sent out my invites) ugghh... anyways I found for a while there that just keeping my head down and doing my own thing was the best for my stress level.
But... I'm hoping to be back and more involved for the rest of my planning process. I know that everyone on here has helped me so much and I do want to share my experience and knowledge with others too as I think it's key for everyone to plan their weddings more easily.
That said - we sent out our invites back in January (formal invites - had already done email save the dates back last may)... I'm going to try and take a picture of them this weekend after I find my camera and post on here to share with everyone.
Right now, we're working on planning an excursion day (probably to Chichen Itza and a cenote) and figuring out when everyone's flights arrive to decide when to do a welcome cocktail reception (or if to do one at all).
I remember last year lots of brides to be made lists and posted them weekly to help them keep on top of their to dos... hmmm maybe an idea to copy.
Anyways, long post... sorry Welcome all the newbies. Congrats to those who I missed saying that to recently and thanks for understanding my hiatus everyone
I am right there with you... lurking is about all I can do as of late. ;-)