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Could work stop my DW from happening?

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I do not have much time on the books because of my back surgeries, doctors appointments, smaller procedures,etc. Because I am in a light duty spot (doing office work on an administrative line) I am now required to take Village holidays (memorial day, fourth of July, etc). These were days I use to work and bank the holiday for. Just found out now we also have July 3rd off because of parking issues with our festival and stuff going on. Good news for most but not me. As my time has been going away I settled on the fact that for our wedding I would have to take some days off without pay, sucks but crap happens. Well I just found out that you cant just do that, you have to get permission and no one has ever been given permission. The supervisor who's advice I seeked said she thought they would not grant it because it sets a precident (sp?) and they are big on precidents around here. Now what??!?!?!!?! I am freaking out!!!!!!! I mean we have to be in Mexico 4 days before we get married, so at very minimum I need like 4-5 days off and that is without having a honeymoon of any sort! I never thought work would ruin our wedding!!!! Sorry for the vent but I am shaking right now!!

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OH MY! hug2.gif

 

I don't really have any advice and wish I could be more eloquent with my support, but that freakin sucks!!!!!

 

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you have to put a special request IN WRITING. make sure you have a paper trail - no more conversations.

 

this is your wedding, you are asking for days off without pay - that is not out of line AT ALL.

 

take a deep breath.

 

if you want to write the letter and PM me, I will help you!!! :)

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Hi Lucy,

 

Sorry to hear this. I would definitley ask your supervisor immediately. If they don't allow you to take time off for your wedding, then it might be time to look for another job. Let us know what happens.

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Can you bribe someone to cover for you?

 

If it comes down to it, my advice is something my Dad always told me...

 

"You were looking for a job when you found this one, who says you can't find another"

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I agree.. get something in writing. Umm hello.. they would deny your request for your weddinghuh.gif If that's the case I would be looking for another job pronto. Or you could call in "sick" for those 4-5 days that you would need..

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I think getting married is different than taking off time for a holiday.. but then again it just depends on your company and it doesn't sound like they're very flexible. Have you been there for awhile? You could call in "sick" and deal with the consequences....

 

If it was to care for a sick family member would they let you go? Maybe your great aunt Tilda is in Mexico and has been very ill.. you must go to her bedside immediately!

 

Sorry I don't have any real suggestions other than talk to someone else.. I mean you're getting married for goodness sakes!

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They would have to be inconsiderate assholes to make you cancel your wedding. You are asking for time without pay- I don't think that's setting a big precedent. Stay calm- I'm sure it will get worked out. :) Some people are such B&W turds. Hopefully you can just go above the supervisor's head.

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My advice goes along with Alyssa. I'd put a request in writing immediately since your wedding is still 4 months away. That gives them PLENTY of time to find someone to cover you. You also want that paper trail to back you up.

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Oh no, I say go for the precedent...you never know until you ask. Employers don't have to give you time off unless it's a FMLA type leave (I *think*) but it would be nice if they all did. Unless you work for some meanies or you do a job that nobody on earth can fill in for, they should let you.

 

Pursue it and good luck...if all else fails I would call out sick and face the music later, don't let work ruin your wedding!

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