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#1 tlomlad

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    Posted 22 February 2008 - 01:24 PM

    need serious advice...
    we are getting married @ dreams, cancun in july. my parents orgianally said that they wont be able to make it [too expensive] so we were going to have a wedding here in the states prior to our trip to cancun. Family here, friends there. Turns out that they will be able to come!!! YAY!!! im so excited.. but now i want my sister to be my maid of honor and my younger siblings to be my bridal party...

    what do i do about the 2 other girls that are currently my bridal party ... i hardly even talk to them and my MOH is his best girl-friend... what should i do and how should i do it ?

    #2 amandalovesryan

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      Posted 22 February 2008 - 01:28 PM

      Maybe you should be honest to them about it. Have they put a lot of time and effort and money into planning for you? I think if I had to tell my friends this, they would understand. And, vice versa, if they told me the situation, i would understand. Family comes before friends.
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      #3 Golden

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        Posted 22 February 2008 - 01:31 PM

        I would just add the other two girls to the wedding party.

        #4 twinkletoes

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          Posted 22 February 2008 - 01:44 PM

          Depending on how many younger siblings you have and/or how big you want your bridal party to be, I say add your friends as well. Or if you don't want a huge bridal party, maybe even have them take part in the ceremony as something else. For instance, if you're doing a sand ceremony, maybe they can help read it.
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          #5 Karen

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            Posted 22 February 2008 - 02:05 PM

            I would just add your sisters on to your attendants. Have 2 MOH's! I've been on the receiving end of something like this and it's not fun. Nobody likes to feel like they are expendable and everyone should be treated with kindness and respect. I mean these girls were willing to travel a long ways and spend a lot of money to be there for you and honor you. So that should definately be honored. Being a bridesmaid isn't always fun and can be expensive, so if you think your friends would be ok with being honored guests then let them know but do so sweetly and kindly. But honestly, I think adding on is the best way to go. These girls were will to be there for you when your family could not.
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            #6 lucy106

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              Posted 22 February 2008 - 04:52 PM

              Even if the girls you were going to have in your DC bridal party are hurt a little bit you need to be honest with them and tell them the situation. I do think they should still be involved somehow whether in your bridal party or helping with the ceremony but this is your day and your sister and family should be involved if possible. Its your day!!

              #7 LadyP

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                Posted 22 February 2008 - 05:23 PM

                I would just add them

                #8 PaulaV

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                  Posted 22 February 2008 - 05:30 PM

                  Quote:
                  Originally Posted by lucky k72
                  I would just add your sisters on to your attendants. Have 2 MOH's! I've been on the receiving end of something like this and it's not fun. Nobody likes to feel like they are expendable and everyone should be treated with kindness and respect. I mean these girls were willing to travel a long ways and spend a lot of money to be there for you and honor you. So that should definately be honored. Being a bridesmaid isn't always fun and can be expensive, so if you think your friends would be ok with being honored guests then let them know but do so sweetly and kindly. But honestly, I think adding on is the best way to go. These girls were will to be there for you when your family could not.
                  Karen makes some excellent points.
                  Add them all in!

                  #9 foxytv

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                    Posted 22 February 2008 - 05:57 PM

                    Just add the other girls on. It's ok to have 4, even if there aren't 4 GM.

                    I hardly ever hear from 2 of my BM's anymore either -- so if they haven't spent much money yet, and you are comfortable with it, I'd explain it to them and see. Maybe they are feeling muvch like being BM's anymore. One of mine backed out and another I know would rather not be one now but she's already sunk the $$ into everything.

                    So, you definitely have some options ... but for sure add the family members either way!

                    #10 tlomlad

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                      Posted 24 February 2008 - 05:41 PM

                      thanks girls for all your advice... im def. going to add my sibilings in, that means, 1 MOH, 3 BM's, and 1 GM [im one of six]

                      thing is im not that close with the 2girls that our currently on my bridal party... one night we were all out having cocktails and i was crying cause my family wasnt going to go to Cancun and they somewhat offered and i accepted them as bridesmaids... its complicated




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