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[PrecisePlans]

is anyone still throwing you a shower or a bachorlorette party? I'm having a DW in Jamaica and i've decided to not have a bridal party. I had to throw and pay for my own shower. I'm just wondering what's gonna happen for the bachorlorette party.......i kinda wanna have one but unfortunately, I don't think any of my "so-called" friends have given me or my wedding a second thought!!

[cheese_diva]

Do you have family that lives close to you? I'm surprised to hear you threw your own shower.. I've never heard of anyone doing that.. did your guests say anything to you about it? I'm sorry you're in such a funky position with no close friends stepping up.

[MelissaH]

i only had my sister stand up for me and she was in no kind of financial situation to do much for us, but we had a lot of other family members help out with throwing showers and stuff like that. the only thing i had to do on my own really was my bachelorette.

[PrecisePlans]

Here's the thing: I'm an only child. Both of my parents are from Jamaica and most of my family is spread out in Miami, NY, and JA. Yep, I had to throw my own wedding shower....how pathetic is that!!! No one said anything to me, they came LATE and then ate and left (no one even stayed to help me clean up).


I really want a bacholorette party, but I don't want to have to ASK anyone to throw it for me.

[JUSTUSTWO]

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Originally Posted by md_ocr Here's the thing: I'm an only child. Both of my parents are from Jamaica and most of my family is spread out in Miami, NY, and JA. Yep, I had to throw my own wedding shower....how pathetic is that!!! No one said anything to me, they came LATE and then ate and left (no one even stayed to help me clean up). I really want a bacholorette party, but I don't want to have to ASK anyone to throw it for me.

This is a tough spot to be in but I say if you were good enough to throw your own shower then just bite the bullet & organize your own bach party! From planning this wedding I've learned that if we wait for people/our so called good friends, to do things for us, they'll never get done. I know you don't want to have to ask anyone to do it for you so maybe this is the best option. Also, at least if you throw it, you'll wind up doing what you want to do as opposed to going someplace that you wouldn't have really liked.
Why not give it some more time & see what your friends do. Maybe they'll surprise you & get it together.

[h&a]

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Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO This is a tough spot to be in but I say if you were good enough to throw your own shower then just bite the bullet & organize your own bach party! From planning this wedding I've learned that if we wait for people/our so called good friends, to do things for us, they'll never get done. I know you don't want to have to ask anyone to do it for you so maybe this is the best option. Also, at least if you throw it, you'll wind up doing what you want to do as opposed to going someplace that you wouldn't have really liked. Why not give it some more time & see what your friends do. Maybe they'll surprise you & get it together.

I agree... hopefully w/ time your friends will step up to the plate... but if they don't, and you want to have one then you should definitely go ahead and make sure you get to enjoy one

[FutureMrsKitzberger]

I am in a similar position. Most of my family and friends live out of my area and I don't have anyone I can really rely on to throw me a shower or bachelorette party. I may end up just planning them myself, but I can't decide if that's just going to make me feel like a loser. I have found that some people just aren't as excited about me getting married as I am. Wouldn't it be nice if they were?

[lucy106]

Oh my gosh I am so sorry to hear your friends suck!! But totally throw yourself a party!! You deserve it!!

[Karen]

= ( I'm sorry to hear you are in a pickle regarding this. Would it be worth it for you to travel to where a close friend or family member lives? Might be fun to go away for a weekend, blow off some steam, and party with someone close. I don't see anything wrong with throwing yourself a bach party. But IMHO I'm not sure if I would want to celebrate with people who couldn't be bothered to step up for me.

[becks]

I'm in the same boat - no one lives close by. People have talked about a shower, but I will be traveling to the west coast.

Its difficult, too, because I don't want to invite anyone to the shower that won't be going to the wedding so that gets me a headcount of, what, 7?