AshleyL

Thanks for the advice ladies. I think I will ask someone else and just make up an excuse why my friend can't. I don't want to bump up my other BM to Moh because she is my FSIL and I just asked her to make FI happy - we aren't that close. And my other BM is a junior BM and she's only 12. You are right though I shouldn't have to wait for her to make the announcement I just need to move forward from this.

Mine are in too! I had to pick them up, but there was no charge for shipping. They actually sent me 2 different booklets. The first one is quite large and has information about history/culture/etc. The second smaller book has information on attractions and tours. I will try posting photos once I charge my camera. Now that I have them here I have decided not to put them in the oot bags, because they are too heavy to pack down to Jamaica. Instead I think I will mail them out to our guests about a month before we go to get them even more excited about the trip.

Angry sun - I like it.

Quote:Originally Posted by akua420 Good idea on the water shoes! I'm going to start looking now since everything summerish is ALREADY on sale! I have seen some at winners for $35 but they didn't have my size. Let me know if you find them somewhere else.

Quote:Originally Posted by akua420 I had no idea! I'm going to look into it, I've never heard of a bride and groom getting weight allowances!!!! This would be incredible. Does your lfight leave on a Friday morning to? We get into Jamaica by early afternoon and we can start drinking, hahahha! Yes our flight leaves in the morning and it's direct. I'm pretty excited we will actually get to enjoy some of the day at the resort.

I have an iPad and have downloaded a few books on it. Definitely nice for traveling but IMO nothing beats having a book in my hands. I'm a traditionalist I guess. Oh and I do a lot of reading in the bathtub and I'm too afraid of dropping my iPad to take it in there with me.

Quote:Originally Posted by akua420  Oh don't get me wrong, I say Im all good about it but you should hear the battles in my head!! I am a bit bitter, I'm trying to get over it. The whole if you think it it will be true mantra, hahaha. my mom says that she can barely remember who was at her wedding, all she remembers is seeing my dad for the first time as she walked down the isle. That made me tear up and kind of put it into perspective. She lectured me about the marriage being more important then the wedding, so it got me thinking.  That puts you in a tough position though, ebacuse you're kind of on hold with the dresses until then! Did she say when she will tell people? Did you ask her if its possible to only tell the replacement and nobdoy else? That would drive me NUTS having to play the waiting game thats for sure.  That would be great if we could! Too bad we won't see eachother!!! Are you staying at the Bahia for 2 weeks?  Aww that story about your Mom and Dad's wedding is so sweet. I'm totally bitter too and trying not to be lol. As far as my friend goes, she doesn't want to tell anyone about the pregnancy for 3 months. I really don't think this will happen though, her husband is dying to tell people. I asked my Aunt ( thank god for her ) to go dress shopping with me tomorrow so I think she knows something is going on. We might actually end up staying at the Bahia for 2 weeks if it's way cheaper than anywhere else. If we did we would be ther from the 4 th to the 18th. My TA still hasn't gotten back to me with the quotes. What date do you arrive?

Ok for minei did this: The very first and last page I did Bob Marley quotes because we are getting married in Jamaica. 2nd page - the passport page with our photo. Just put Bride to be and Groom to be and our full names. Date of wedding, location of wedding. Under passport number I put xoxo. The next page was like the more formal invitation bit "so and so invite you to accompany them..." Then accommodations page with a photo of the resort and details such as price and contact info for our travel agent. A map of JA with Runaway Bay marked with a star. Details about our The trip: departure, kids rates, deposits, passport info etc. Details about our AHR. I will try to post some pics but I hope this gives you some ideas. Good luck!

Hmmm I'll have to check the mailbox I guess.

Quote:Originally Posted by akua420 Don't feel terrible, I kind of feel the same way, I'm my friends MOH and she's not coming to mine either, but no prego excuse for her, ahhahaa. I feel guilty thinking it but its the same, its like well I'm doing AL this crap fopr you, spending ALL this money, and you're not coming to mine? But I"m trying to be nice inside and knock those thoughts on the head with a sledgehammer...  Its a tough one to handle, which is why Im not having a bridal party at all, and I know she's probably a ltitle pissed abuot it beacuse she insistant upon me having a bridal party at my AHR but that just seems to pointless to me. So I'm not having one at all, I'm not having a bridal party or a bachelorette beacuse I have nobody to throw them for me, and who cares, I am marrying my FI and thats all that matters, gotta keep telling myself that.  Tell me about it! In total we spent over $4000 for my friends wedding - travel, hotel, dress, hair etc. And my Aunt ended up planning my bridal shower because neither of my bridesmaids did anything. I don't even want a bachelorette for the same reason. It would just be my aunt stuck planning everything and those two not helping at all. I wish we had decided on no bridal party from the beginning. Too much stress and drama. Now I have to find a replacement MOH but I can't ask anyone until she announces her pregnancy because I'm the only one that knows about it. Too bad we aren't going to be in Jamaica at the same time - we could have a double bachelorette party at the resort All my b**ching aside, I think you definitely have the right attitude about everything - you are right all that matters is that I will be marrying my FI. I have to see past all the drama and focus on that. Thanks!

So my MOH informed me last week that she is pregnant and most likely won't be attending my wedding. While part of me is thrilled for her, my confession is this: I had a feeling from the beginning that she would find a way out of this. She was married last year and I did everything - planned the shower, hosted the bachelorette at my home, paid over $4000 to go to her wedding plus paid for dress, hair, everything. She didn't even get the BM's a thank you gift and I never got a thank you in person - just the thank you card for the shower/wedding gifts. Now it's finally my turn and I just feel so let down. She said she still wants to help with everything but I know that's not going to happen. Also I don't know what to do about asking someone else because they will know that they were second choice since I already announced my wedding party. And I can't ask anyone until she announces the pregnancy because I'm the only one who knows and I don't want to give it away. She doesn't want to say anything for 3 months! So that leaves 3 months until my wedding. Sorry for the long rant. Part of me feels like a terrible friend for not just being 100% supportive and happy for her. But part of me is so tired of always being the great friend to everyone else and not getting anything in return.

By the way thanks to everyone who let me know about the VS store. I still want to check it out but I think I'll give it a couple weeks for the craziness to die down.

Quote:Originally Posted by akua420 My girlfriend lives RIGHT by there and was there yesterday and she said its only bras/lingerie with a few of their sweats and stuff, then a whole bunch of product, so no I don't think they will have the clothes, which sucks beacuse they are super cute. Anyways in the end it would probably be the same to order it online with shipping, I bet they're marking up the prices like MAD! What were you doing in Edmonton?  My girlfriend picked the dresses and we ordered them online, we got by far the best deal.  I was in Edmonton to look at BM dresses with my MOH, but that didn't work out. My MOH informed me that she's pregnant and most likely won't be coming to my wedding I don't know what to think - on one hand I'm very happy and excited for her, but on the other hand I am so sad that she isn't going to be at my wedding. And a small part of me is also a little bit resentful because I did everything for her when she got married and now I feel kinda cheated. I know that's terrible to say and I'm not sure how to handle this.

I haven't received mine yet! Was it delivered through UPS?

Thanks for posting all the pics Kerri! And thanks too for the reassurances - I wasn't planning on taking extra decor either so it's a relief to know I won't need it. And I'm so happy we decided to bring our own photographer! Whew! Congrats on the honeymoon baby!

Thanks for the tip. We don't have dollar tree or Christmas tree shops in Canada but i definitely have a list of stores to visit the next time im in the US

The letter is great - thanks for sharing. I'm also super jealous of the bonfire idea. Sounds fun!

Wish we had a Target! Akua - I bought the giant bottles too. Where did you find your little bottles to fill? I was going to check the dollarstore but haven't found time yet. Let me know if you find cheap ones. I'll keep you posted if I can think of a label idea too.

I have 2 pairs of wedding shoes (can't decide which ones so I'll take both). Flip flops (couple pairs at least) running shoes, and those ugly water shoes for Dunn's River Falls lol.

Quote:Originally Posted by AshleyL In our case my mom is on a fixed income and struggling to save up the money just to attend. FI parents are split but both very well off. Neither has offered to pay for anything although FFIL has offered to pay for Fi's aunt/uncle/sis and her bf/and some random cousins i have only met once. It's kind of annoying because most of those that he's paying for probably wouldn't make the effort to attend if it weren't a free trip. And I just want to say " if you are offering free trips here Is a list of people we actually want there". Update - FFIL has offered to help with wedding costs. He doesn't want to cut a cheque because he wants to collect the air miles from using his Visa. Yikes that means I have to run everything by him first. We have already disagreed on everything. (he thinks $300 for a photographer is a good budget). I'm really grateful he has offered to help but he has no idea what these things cost. He was married in someones living room 20 years ago. This might be a bit of an uphill battle...

I know Kerrij said somewhere on here that they brought their own photographer and also used the resorts photog for the 10 free pics in their package. I remember reading that she wasn't impressesed with him. Also the prices for photographer are all in the wedding package Beverly sent to me. I. I know the wedding package has been posted on here before and I'm on my iPad and it's saved on my home comp, so I can't post it right now. Try searching for it.

Im pretty sure I usually take 2 suitcases and a carry on when i travel, but each airline is different so just check their website and it should tell you baggage allowances. And on my invoice it just says 10kg extra weight allowance for bride and groom. Not sure if it's each bag or not. Good question - I'll have to ask my TA and I'll let you know what she says. It also says 50% off weight overages for the group so I guess that means they only pay half of the fee if their luggage is overweight.

Quote:Originally Posted by soontobemrsdow  these are so cute...im going to look into it! im just worried about how much its going to cost to get down there because I dont know if we'll be able to fit everything we plan on brining in our 2 suitcases and be under weight....its giong to be tuff...i dont want to sacrifice bringing clothes! lol Â Check if your airline offers a higher weight allowance for the bride and groom. I think we get an extra 10kg. Also we are thinking of sending some of our oot bag stuff with my brother. He's only taking one suitcase for himself so that leaves me a whole suitcase to fill with wedding stuff

Ya I'm sure it's super stressful on both ends. Hope all goes well for everyone. I tried searching for a thread that might have tips for things to ask your travel agent. There are so many travel agents on this forum that are experienced in dealing with DW and I'm sure there are many recommendations on things to ask etc that can save everyone a lot of stress in the long run. My biggest regret is going through a TA that is not experienced in DWs, so I guess I just need to have some extra patience with her while she goes through the learning process. Good luck everyone!

Anyone wait in that long line to get into Victoria Secret? I was in WEM yesterday and thought I'd check it out, but didn't have the time to stand in line. The store looks awesome though and I'm wondering if anyone knows if they carry any of their dresses there? It mostly looked like bras/lingerie and stuff from the PINK line when I walked by. Just wondering for BM dress possibilities.