You daughter sounds like my niece as far as doesnt want anyone touching her hair. But her aunt can get away with it a little more then mom.
As far as the ceremony goes, I found out the basic outline (welcome, sermon about love, response, exchange of vows, blessing of rings, exchange of rings, and pronouncement). Then I just started researching different versions and am cutting and pasting it. I would like our vows to be self written but we will see how that goes.