Hi, Girls!
I am about to pull my hair out. As I've told some of you in a previous thread - my MIL drives me NUTS. She makes veiled nasty comments about everything from my weight to my family to choices I make in our home. She is very critical, and I am not used to that - I come from a home where my parents were very supportive/loving. Anyways, DH always thinks that I'm too sensitive and that I overreact. He says that she acts that way to everyone ... like that makes it OK!
Anyways, we just got married in May. She sent DH an email asking him whether he wanted her to visit the weekend of July 19 or 25. The only problem is that we didn't invite her!!! I find this to be so, so, so rude. DH says that it is his mother, and she can visit whenever she wants (within reason - not every weekend). I say that she should wait until she's invited. Do you girls think I'm out of line here?
Plus, she has pretty much been stand-offish and cold to me since the day I met her (4 years ago). During the wedding week in Jamaica, however, she was a sweet as pie. I don't know what was going on - I don't know whether she thinks that she might as well play nice since I'm not going anywhere or whether she was heavily medicated or what. DH thinks I ought to just be happy and embrace it. It is hard to forget 4 years of bitchiness, though. I really want nothing to do with her - other than when she's visiting DH.
We've been fighting about this for 2 days! I hate it. I need to hear girls, if I'm being unreasonable - its easy to get caught up in the situation and not see the "forest for the trees" so to speak.
Thanks in advance for the advice!