MrsV-to-be

This is tough for me to decide!! I love strapless dresses - and that one looks fantastic on you & I love the back on it! But I really like what I think the halter will look like on you. So I think I will have to go with the halter - but just by a tiny tiny bit

Quote: Originally Posted by TAMMYM Hmmm good point Jennette. Course the only "family" that will be there is Cain's Ma and aunt, everyone else that is going are friends. if thats the case, then the wording is perfect and suits the occassion! I definitly vote for No. 1

I liked the wording of the first one the best, but as it stands right now, I would choose the second one, because in the first, you make a fantastic comment about continuing friendships and how friends are who you have chosen to be your family. That part is beautiful...the only that makes me hesitate is that you don't make a special comment about family. Do you think anyone may wonder if you are making a statement by your silence? Other then that - I think both are wonderfully worded

Congrats!! Can't wait to hear what you decide on! Good luck

Hey, Itsme just got married at Al Cielo Hotel, which is south of PDC by approximately 15-20 minutes. Looks stunning and it does not require you to stay there as a guest. Honestly when I saw this resort - I almost changed all my plans - but FI wouldn't let me. So you should check it out!

Quote: Originally Posted by VALERIE I struggled for quite some time about the first dance song. I found this song at the very last minute and ABSOLUTELY love it! I thought I'd throw it out there for the rest of you.... Feels Like Home by Chantal Kreviazuk I love that song too - I used to replay it over and over - what a great choice!

Quote: Originally Posted by A10CALGAL I keep thinking about the dog whisperer "calm & assertive, calm & assertive"! That cracks me up!! But I have a feeling when it is my time - that is exactly what is going to be running through my head to! LOL

Okay disregard my last email - apparantly I'm to slow on the post It will work out Christa - don't worry. And don't worry about this - this is just one small glich on the way - and there always has be one small/big glich. You will be over this shortly - and there is nothing standing between you, Mexico and a fantastic wedding - just hang in there until this 'shortly' is over

okay - Based off that form you definitaly need a Notary, but I don't see anything that says the same form has to be signed by both parents - it looks like you can have 2 separate documents. So if you can get both FI and the mom to the notaries today - and have hers couried express overnight to your house - you are good to go!

Why don't you put the steps in motion to get the original Affidavit. After you have the mom sign it - have her Notary fax it to you before it is couriered. That way - at minimum you will have an Affidavit, with her notarized signature and your FI's signature (notarized or not). At least it will be something Also - are you sure you need it notarized? or would just having a witness suffice?

Yeah - I did a quick search, there isn't a tone of info on the US travel requirements, but one website I did find mentioned that you could be asked for it both when you leave the US and when you enter a new country. It may come to naught - but I would recommend seeing if you could get it done - if so great - your prepared. But if it doesn't happen in time - I guess all you can do is carry on as per usual. One good thing is that he is not under 14 - if so I think you would have more of a chance to be harrassed about it. men never worry about anything until the crisis actually hits good luck!

Ok I think you have two options: (1) see if it is acceptable to have two separate Affidavits (both notarized). It may be possible perhaps if they reference each other. Assuming you need original documents, you could have the mom's courier to you express overnight. (2) have the mom attend a Notary ASAP to sign an Affidavit, courier it over night to your Notary - and have your FI sign it there. Have no idea if this will work with your timing or not. Good luck!

This sort of situation would suck at any time in someone's life. The fact that you are in the lead up to your wedding makes it all the more hurtful. The only suggestion I would have, is that if you don't want to be blamed for this, and I think what you said may be true, right or wrong you will be blamed for this, that either (1) you continue with the plan to invite both FMIL and the rest of the family to the shower or (2) you ask your FI to deal with the situation by telling them that this is his decision and has nothing to do with you. I definitly would recommend doing 1. Perhaps if FMIL sees you in an environment where everyone else is super happy and excited about you two getting married, she will have something to think about. Also I am sure you would want to be thought of as attempting to mend bridges rather then be the person breaking it all up (even though you aren't at all). However at the same time, you have to respect what FI wants. tough situation - good luck with figuring it out. Let us know how it turns out for you.

Welcome!! and congratulations! I would love to hear all about the wedding and experiences!

hhmm. first - We are trying to keep it quiet as well, but those few I have told, don't think it is a big deal. My mom says that legalities can kiss her ass, and what is important is the ceremony of watching someone commit & dedicate their lives together. (I thought it was cute rationale - thought I'd share it with you, because it made me feel better about it ) Second - can you ask your wedding coordinator who will be performing the wedding, and if it is just an employee, if you have the option of brining a Non-Denominational minister onto the property to perform the wedding? third - do you think you could pull off a 'fake signing'? I mean perhaps have a book or some sort of document that you, witnesses and the officiant signs? What exactly I don't know. I don't know if some religions give a certificate of marriage or something along those lines or not. Of course if anyone asks you a direct question, you can't lie about it, but this way, you may avoid being asked questions.

Hey! My FI and I just came to the same decision, because we didn't have to be limited on the days we could be married down there (we wanted to get married on a day before the legal 3 day wait period). We are getting married by a Non-Denominational Minister in a Symbolic wedding ceremony, so I assume it will follow the same format as any other non-civil or religious ceremony. but I believe (although i don't know for sure) that there won't be any paper signing - I can't think of any reason of why it would be necessary, since it is not legal.

Congrats!! How exicting! I'm getting married in the Mayan next May. I think I've logged hundreds of hours searching some resorts - but its fun! Enjoy the planning!

Are you getting any type of deal from your travel agent for the group booking? For instance, for us, every 26th adult's package is free. If you have something like that, you could just ask her permission to use it towards her ticket. If you were able to do something like that, you both win. You get your aunt there, and she won't potentially feel bad for not paying her own way - because its 'free'. Even if you technically did not use it towards her ticket - whose to know?

Welcome Annie! I am getting married in the Mayan next May. We think we have settled on the El Dordo Royale. let me know if you have any questions!

I've never heard of the tradition of not seeing him the day before. I understood that it was tradition that the couple was supposed to say good bye the night before, sleep in separate accomodations and not see each again until the ceremony. I also understood that traditionally, the rehersal dinner was the night before, so most brides and grooms did see each before. But you can always create new traditions...if you want to

Welcome! Congratulations on getting in engaged! I think you have picked a beautiful location - and I definitly don't think you will have trouble planning it all in time! Good luck!

opps - never mind! I found the answer (you don't have to)

I'm I correct in assuming that if you are not doing a legal ceremony, you won't have to be in Mexico 3 days prior? Or does the 3 day rule still apply?

I know what you are going through. Everyone's work that I love - FI thinks they are too expensive. We are looking at bringing a photographer from home for our wedding at EDR (hopefully!). My Travel agent said it would be about $1000 for a flight and, at the EDR about $155/night. at EDR an outside photographer has to stay 3 nights now.

Welcome Denise!! It is a great site isn't?? I am wholly and utterly addicted to it I am getting married close to Playa del Carmen next May. Let me know if I can help with anything!