Well I talked to her last night....I failed to mention to you that I asked her in December to start planning her trip since I know she is a single mom and I thought 7 months would be plenty of time for her to plan accordingly. I also told her that this was the most important day of my life and with her being my best friend of 15 years, I really thought she would have taken me seriously.
o.k., so back to our conversation. I called her and gave me my TA info and asked her to call her and see what she could do for her as far as a cheaper hotel and maybe confirm with her the day pass price.
I told her I wanted to say something to her and to please not take offense to it.....I said I know you are a single mom trying to make my wedding a vacation for her and her girls. I said that I did not have a problem with that at all. I did tell her however that if the girls were there, that I would not have her full attention as I am going to need. That I am also going to need her full support in the next 2 months before we leave for my final decisions, support at showers, bach party, travel with me and stay with me at my hotel so she is there for anything that may come up. I then told her that I did not feel that she was capable of giving any of this to me and if she needed to step down as my MOH I would totally understand.
She said well 6 months ago when you asked me to be your MOH, you told me that if I did not go you would never talk to me again....well yes I did say that, but I had no idea that she would take the entire 6 months to decide to make travel arangments....she's stressing me out...I need to ask her things about the wedding...and she's never there to talk to me. I told her that YES I was making this all about me and sorry, but I don't feel selfish at all for asking her for her full attention for the next few months.
She said she REALLY wants to go and asked that I give her the week to figure things out on her end. So, we'll revisit next week.
Thank you girls SO much for listening to me and giving me great feedback!