Originally Posted by MelB2012
I can definately relate to this. My family is HUGE. My FH's family is tiny (and older...) So even with inviting those that we did, it's like a 90/10 split between my family and his.
My Mom told me how some of my great aunts (many, but one in particular) was excited to come to my wedding. I point blank said, "But she's not invited." My Mom got upset, but frankly, if you can't tell me what my FH's name is... you're not invited to my wedding. It's pretty simple. I invited some 2nd cousins, as my Mom grew up with them, and they're close... But I'm not about to invite 150+ people from my family, when my FH doesn't even have 25....
Anyway.... I totally get it.
haha! It's so easy to get all worked up about things again.
The thing with us, is our families aren't big either. Rather small actually..... we just aren't close with them, and neither are our parents. So I just didnt see whyyyyy it was so important to invite their siblings, when, we havent seen them in YEARS. Yes, they could tell me my FI's name.... but that's because we were together for 10 years before all this! But the fact that the last time I saw my cousins was over 9 years ago, and now they have both graduated from high school and my youngest cousin has a baby now... like no, sorry, just is not happening.
Our friends have, and always will be, our family. It has been the same close knit group of us since high school.... so yes, they get invites over family BECAUSE they are OUR family.
And if people's feelings get hurt, well, too bad. We are taping the ceremony and will play it at our AHR when we come back... and alllllll those people are invited to that! (or will be....)