Never thought I'd be in this boat -- devastated!
Posted 10 December 2007 - 04:47 PM
Anyhoo, I am going to try to talk to my mom and see if she can help out (she doesn't care that I change it). It still makes me sad knowing that I might be walking down the isle alone and that I've always been pretty close to my parents.
Posted 10 December 2007 - 04:51 PM
Posted 10 December 2007 - 04:52 PM
Posted 10 December 2007 - 05:03 PM
And I am curious...does your mom share his last name? How would he have felt if she was so determined to keep HER maiden name?
And I agree...call him on his bluff. I can't imagine him ACTUALLY missing the entire thing & looking like an A$$ to all your family and friends over this issue. If nothing else, I would think that his pride would get the better of him. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's awful and I feel terrible for you. To be brutally honest, I think it terrible of him to put you in this position.
Posted 10 December 2007 - 05:13 PM
I am going to call my mom (I'm closer to her) and have my sister talk to my dad (she's closer to him) and see if he'll listen. If it were a matter of carrying his family name since there's no boy I can understand where he is coming from. The thing is my sister did not change her last name so I know that is not the issue. He claims that by changing the last name I am no longer part of his family (hence not his daughter) that is just not an acceptable reason. Is a last name more important than the blood and the person?
I will stay strong to fight through this issue and hope he'll come around. I will keep you ladies updated. Thanks for all the support again.
Posted 10 December 2007 - 05:16 PM
Good luck in all this!!!
Posted 10 December 2007 - 05:20 PM
| Originally Posted by Mrs.B 2008 |
Wow i am really sorry to hear that you are dealing with this. I think that it is ridiculous for your parents to demand that you keep their name. 1st of all - you are a grown ass woman - 2nd you are becoming a family with your FI and plan to have kids and do not need ANYONE's permission to change your name or not change it. and 3rd - if they are willing to miss your wedding b/c they cannot manipulate you into doing what they want, then shame on them.
Can you just keep your maiden name for professional purposes but legally change your name to your FH's last name? Your dear old dad doesn't really have to know about it. I agree with Kate and I don't advocate lying to the rents, but.... your dad is way out of line on this one. If you let him tell you what to do now, what are you going to do when your kids are born and he insists they carry your last name and not your husbands? I think you really need to put your foot down on this one, as much as it might cause an argument, you ARE a grown woman and this is your choice to make, not his.
Posted 10 December 2007 - 05:34 PM
Posted 10 December 2007 - 05:39 PM
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