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#221 pjay

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 06:36 AM

Oh my goodness. 

I feel so sad about this right now and i'm so sorry Jer <3

 

You know that i've had my fair share of disappointments over the last few months so I can completely relate to how this is affecting you right now. I felt the same way when my MOH was putting her very short lived relationship before everything to do with my wedding. I know that there's obviously a healthy balance, but this is something that she would have committed to before they even started dating so i'd be extremely frustrated if this happened to me as well.

 

I also had a situation where someone backed out of a room with one of my bridesmaids and the other roommate decided to come for 5 days instead of 7 (It was a room of three girls). I ended up taking on the burden and paying the $400 difference myself so that my friend wouldn't be affected by it, but I was REALLY angry doing it lol. I made it known to the person who backed out. I only did this because the friend that it affected is my best friend of almost 20 years and she's flying in from New Zealand to make it, but if it were anyone else I wouldn't have been as forgiving over this situation.

 

You know i'm here for you for anything you want to chat/rant about. You've always been here to support me through everything.


 

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#222 Wafflesmom

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 06:51 AM

Thanks so much @perianjay. I know you're always there for me :) I was gonna message you last night but Der suggested we take Waffle for a long walk and I can clear my head.

She met him way after she committed to going to our wedding. I try to rationalize her decision in my head and try to put myself in her shoes but it's really hard. I don't want to guilt her into changing her decision since I clearly know what and who her priorities are right now. I decided to text her since I'm always honest about my feelings with my friends. I thought talking it out would make me feel better but it hasn't. It's still to fresh.

Plus, I guess I have to mentally and emotionally prepare myself for more instances like this. I know as we get closer to the date there's a possibility of people cancelling but I'm hoping there's some who'll join too
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#223 calgarybride2015

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 06:55 AM

Awe hun I feel terrible for you.

What I think tugs at me is what if this relationship with this guy doesn't work out? She picked him over you and she may regret that decision for the rest of her life. I'm a little surprised he isn't more supportive of her going either. My husband would push me to attend because 1. She's known you longer and is a great friend and 2. She already committed!!

None the less those are only my thoughts and I feel your hurt. I hope this all works out for the positive. All I can do is give you big hugs. Hope you can work thru this.


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#224 pjay

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 07:01 AM

I know exactly where you are right now because I was there a month or two ago. I've had my fair share of let downs/disappointments and i'm still going through it, but final payment is due by next Friday and once it's over I can move forward with a clear head and no longer worry about who is coming/who isn't and whatever other issues could arise.

I'm definitely stressing though because I haven't eaten dinner the last couple of days and i've been tossing and turning all night long.

 

Just remember that in only a few months, we will both be in paradise with the people that made us and our happiness their priority. It's so special and I know that i'm going to get emotional once I look around the room on my wedding day.


 

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#225 calgarybride2015

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 07:02 AM

@perianjay
A load was def lifted after final payments were due!!! I had all the same emotions and reactions.


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Planning Thread - http://www.bestdesti...s-riviera-maya/

 

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Wedding Review http://www.bestdesti...31#entry1885600

 

 


#226 Wafflesmom

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 07:06 AM

@calgarybride2015 thanks for the support and hugs Kim. As hurt as I am, I'm still really hoping her relationship works out and that her decision to not come is something she doesn't regret. I've yet to meet her new boyfriend but you're right in that you'd think he'd support her going and not push for vacation so close to date. I know Der would be like Shawn but I guess not all men think the same way.
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#227 deecol

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 07:11 AM

@Wafflesmom aww you poor thing, you don't need that stress!  You're such a good person to still see her side of things.  What's crazy to think is that maybe the new boyfriend is great and pushing her to go but because she hasn't had a relationship she's going to do anything to stay with him... I dunno, totally just thinking about different scenarios.

 

Is there anyone else that can step in and share the room with your friend?

 

I don't really know what to say, I would feel hurt just like you do right now,  I just want to send positive and let you know that everything will work out and be perfect  :wub:


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#228 calgarybride2015

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 07:12 AM

@calgarybride2015 thanks for the support and hugs Kim. As hurt as I am, I'm still really hoping her relationship works out and that her decision to not come is something she doesn't regret. I've yet to meet her new boyfriend but you're right in that you'd think he'd support her going and not push for vacation so close to date. I know Der would be like Shawn but I guess not all men think the same way.


Of course you want it to work out but it doesn't lessen the blow. Your feelings are just. You can't make sense of it and might not for awhile. I hope you feel better soon! Just remember your day will be here (super soon) and this won't matter at the time. It's hard to believe your wedding is coming so that means my 1st anniversary is. Time flies when you aren't planning a wedding lol


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Married on 2015/01/21 at the Grand Sirenis Riviera Maya with 43 guests in attendance   :)

 

Planning Thread - http://www.bestdesti...s-riviera-maya/

 

Wedding Pictures http://www.bestdesti...ra-maya/page-36

 

Wedding Review http://www.bestdesti...31#entry1885600

 

 


#229 Wafflesmom

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 07:42 AM

@ perianjay good point. Remember last year when we were worried about room deposits, I can't believe we're now worried about final payments. I hate that guest count is a recurring worry. Our final payment isn't due until Nov 20, I have 51 days of hell

And I agree with you. In the end, all the worry is for nothing.
@deecol thanks hun. I agree that there is a possibility that her new bf is encouraging her to go but she wants to make it work with him. She has been wanting a relationship for a long time so I can definitely see her being motivated to make it work. We're trying to find someone else to room with my friend. For her, money isn't the issue, it's being alone for a week that she doesn't want. She said she'll make it work regardless of what happens.

@calgarybride2015 you and Perian are absolutely right, pretty soon it won't matter because all that does matter is I get to marry the love of my life. And funny that you mentioned that, I was thinking about how time has gone by so quickly. It feels like it was just yesterday when I was wishing you all the best for your wedding!
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#230 pjay

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 07:45 AM

@Wafflesmom I was thinking the same thing. I can't believe it's almost our weddings now. Time has been flying by and it makes me a bit sad.

I can't wait for final payment.. it didn't haunt me much until now. One of my friends from my doggy meet up group (yes. i'm lame) is also having a DW and it's the week before mine. Her final payment is tomorrow and only 9 of her guests have put money down on a guestlist of originally 42 people. I'm hoping it goes well for her.


 

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