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Guys... I Think He Might Be Planning To Pop The Question!

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Hi!

 

I'm new to this forum but I've been lurking (as a guest) previously.

 

So here's the story:

 

We met on OKCupid - he messaged me for the first time February 8, 2012.

 

Our anniversary is February 18 (that was our very first blind date).

 

After many, many escapades and adventures, we are still together (so, over three years now).

 

I lived in Japan for a goodly amount of time (not too long, not too short), and moved back to the US around August/Sept 2011.

 

We went to Japan for a vacation Winter 2013-2014.

 

We went to China for vacation Winter 2014-2015.

 

Now we are going to Japan again in the summer (2015).

 

The reason why I am so nervous is because my good friend who lives in Japan (she came to NYC in January 2015) posted on fb the following post:

 

"Facebook friends, I implore your help!
I need suggestions for a short (maybe 3 days?), romantic trip in Japan.

I have a friend planning a proposal and he wants to do it while he and his girlfriend are here (in 2 weeks) ...

Help?"

(I put it in quotes).

Now, I hope this isn't egotistical of me, but I think this might be my boyfriend!!! 

We are arriving in Japan in a little over two weeks, and our trip there is really, really short (like ten days). I don't know if this is being planned or not!

I'm totally going crazy and I want to talk to my friends about it but I'm trying to keep cool and not tell anyone for two reasons:

1) this might not be me (although I really, really think it is!)

2) I don't want to ruin the surprise.

But I had to share it with someone so I'm posting to this forum! This is really crazy guys!!

I'm like, too excited and nervous.

 

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Welcome

 

I hate to say this but I don't know many friends who would blow someone's cover like that on FB. Unless she forgot you were on her FB that's actually incredibly tacky of her if it is in fact for you :(

 

I'd reply to the FB post and say in a light hearted way 'I hope this isn't for me :)' is your boyfriend on her FB so he could see that she possibly blew the surprise?

 

Maybe I'm out of line here but I'm shocked.

I don't mean to offend I just can't get my head around it.

 

On the other hand I'm curious now :) and if marriage is what you are hoping for, I do hope it's the time for you!!!

 

Good luck on your trip.

 

 

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Hi calgarybride2015! I've read many a post of yours!

 

Well, here's the thing: I don't use fb that often (in fact, she either messaged me or posted on my wall she was visiting NYC from Japan and I totally missed that message - a different time than the January trip).

 

Actually, I just spoke with my sister and she said the exact same thing as you! She said, why would she do something like that?! But my sister said she hopes it is me, and also she cautioned me not to get my hopes up. ;)

 

So, the reason why I'm pretending like I don't know is because I think it'd actually be nice to be proposed to in Japan, but also because I'm so afraid that if 1) it is me and 2) I let anyone know (I've already sworn my sister to secrecy) that he will postpone proposing to me.

 

I know, I know... I've waiting this long, I can wait a little longer... but guys! Guys! You know?

 

Thank you so much for your well wishes!  :lol:

 

I will try to update on here after my trip (we get back on August 9th).

 

By the way, can I just say the suggestions were not very exciting (although there was a helicopter ride one that looked really crazy). 

 

I have some good ideas but I don't want to share them with anyone in case they get back to him. I'd like this to be his own idea...

 

Anyway, I'm getting ahead of myself.  :rolleyes:

 

Not sure if I used that emoticon properly. Ha ha! :P

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Well thank you for not taking my post wrong! Sometimes I struggle to get my point across. I was more frustrated for you if this was in fact for you --- and I'm with your sister 100%!!

 

You are right about your feelings of him postponing it. I read this to my husband and he said he would lol

 

It's tough not to get ahead of yourself when you 'receive' info like this. But maybe if you try to let it escape your mind, you will forget and be shocked in Japan. Ok ok I know that's just not possible :) ahhhh I don't know but either way can't wait to hear back !!!

 

 

 

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Welcome to the forum! Your story is super exciting!  The only advice I have to TRY not to get your hopes up (I know that is super tough).  If you get your hopes up and it doesn't happen, it may ruin your trip (this has happened to several of my friends). Just remember that if it doesn't happen it may be because he has something planned that he thinks is more special to you guys and it will be perfect whenever is proposes! Let us know how it goes and have a great trip either way!!

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Hi perianjay and Danielle1!

 

Yes, it isn't inconspicuous - there is definitely that possibility that it isn't me.

 

Danielle1, I am trying so hard not to get my hopes up. We leave August 1 so I am really counting the days until then... I'm going to try and enjoy the trip regardless... it shouldn't be too hard, I really enjoy going to Japan...

 

That is so right what you said - I just have to remember that whatever he plans (be it in Japan or anywhere else) it will be special because it will be meaningful to both of us...

 

I can't even really think about this... start second-guessing myself because he seems super calm. I will definitely have a great trip either way! I think this will be fine... either way I'll have a funny story to tell if it doesn't happen.

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WOW - it'd be a huge coincidence if she knew another couple that was going to Japan the same time as you, for the same length of time, etc. BUT on the other hand, why the heck would she put that on Facebook where anybody could see it?! Even if you didn't have Facebook, somebody could tell you.
I hope she didn't ruin the surprise - but either way, it still will be a surprise if it does happen, it will be a special moment between you two and one you'll never forget!! I'd say try to keep your mind off it, but I know that's impossible :) lol
 

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@@lovelovelove I'm with the ladies - I'm not sure why she would post it on FB and if I was your partner I wouldn't be happy about it.

 

I would try to convince myself that it wasn't intended for me at all because she wouldn't put it on FB if it was, and you don't want to get your hopes up.  Easier said than done for sure.  Just try and enjoy your trip and not put any pressure on the situation.

 

Keep us posted!  I'm dying to know! 

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Hi guys!

 

He did not pop the question. There was a moment when I thought he might be going to but he didn't, and I thought to myself "Thank God," because it wasn't a very romantic moment.

 

Well, it's fine... that's what I keep telling myself. It'll happen when it happens.

 

I'm afraid to ask my friend if the couple in question was us, so... It was 99.99% not us anyway, so...

 

Guys it's fine... ;o;

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