Sad With Most Not Coming
Posted 25 January 2015 - 05:40 PM
Posted 25 January 2015 - 07:03 PM
Posted 25 January 2015 - 08:55 PM
This situation keeps coming up with a lot of brides here going through the same thing. It's difficult for sure. People love weddings because they get beautiful surroundings and a meal that they don't have to pay for! That may be oversimplifying but that's what it is. When it comes to a DW, unless it's something that fits with other people's plans, or they're super close to you, it's tough to get people to go. I can definitely sympathize. Been there, done that and ended up being just my husband and I.
You need to keep holding on to the fact that you're marrying the man you love in a beautiful setting. The people that do show up are the ones that you know care a lot about you. Having a DW is a difficult decision but people not attending is part of the deal. It's not a direct reflection on you. It's just that your wedding isn't as important to them as it is to you. It will all work out in the end and you'll have a beautiful wedding!
I said "yes" again to the love of my life at Grand Coral Beach Club, Playa del Carmen, Mexico on our 4th anniversary - October 20, 2015
Posted 26 January 2015 - 05:36 AM
I know what you mean, it's so hard to see my FI bummed out about his friends not coming. The other day when his parents' asked who his groomsmen were, he said "None of my best friends cause they're not going." He then felt bad and backtracked because he still has five groomsmen going--his cousin (best man), my brother, his friend (but far from one of his closest friends), his friend/coworker (again, a friend but not someone he really sees outside of work, who is going because we're friends with the entire family), and my friends' boyfriend, who he's getting to know but he basically just asked because he's already going to be there --but I know he's still really sad about his two best friends not going. One of them has a baby on the way in March (surprise!), which is obviously understandable, and in theory the other one might still book, but he's basically just not putting the time or effort into figuring it out. Every time we asked if he's coming he just says "I dunno, I dunno." There's no "issue" behind it--to be frank, he's just too lazy to call, book, get a passport, etc. It's frustrating feeling like we're being strung along--if you're not going to go, just say "No" so we can start getting stuff ordered!
To an outsider, it would probably seems rude for me to be upset about people not spending over a thousand dollars to be at our wedding, and maybe it is, but it's still hard to see my FI so upset that his best friends won't be at his wedding
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