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#11 JamaicaNicole

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Posted 12 August 2014 - 03:57 PM

I think that is incredibly rude I am including a guest option for everyone we are inviting who is not a couple. In my opinion if they are willing to spend all that money to come to my wedding the least I can do is allow them to bring a guest it is only $80 extra from me.

#12 TheBHolders

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Posted 12 August 2014 - 06:12 PM

So, we just talked about. He actually brought it up and said he is going to get clarification from his friend tomorrow and that it is pretty rude if that is the case.


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#13 Tatimrivera

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Posted 12 August 2014 - 09:40 PM

Definitely seems rude. I would get justification.
Good Luck :)

#14 Lia33

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Posted 15 August 2014 - 08:06 AM

@TheBHolders hopefully this wasn't specific to you! I have heard some stories where guests have turned destination wedding into family vacations without giving a heads up to the bride and groom -leading to last minute expenses for the couple since they have wanted to be included in wedding festivities. Maybe this was what they are trying to avoid? Hopefully they aren't trying to exclude you as a spouse, that would be crazy!

#15 VegasBride121314

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Posted 15 August 2014 - 09:28 AM

Speaking from an Old-G...the slight was probably intentional on the bride's part because we are in charge of the list and if she knows her man's friends, then she knows he's engaged to you! There are a few roads to take, Ask your dude to get clarity and have a new STD sent that includes you--cause surely this was an oversight. You can chose to ignore it and wait until you get the invitation. Then once the official invite comes make your decision. If you are not invited, your dude should not attend --out of principle!! As far as inviting them to your wedding, keep them on your guest list because chances are if ya'll don't go to theirs, they're not coming to yours...You know how WE are!!! 

 

Most important, don't let this ruin your planning experience. I promise there will be more pressing issues for you to stress over. We should take a clue from your guy...,make a joke out of it and laugh it off. There's a reason why men are less stressed...they just let $hit roll off...

 

I hope something here has helped you. Hope you get to 150 soon!


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Invitations out! RSVPs in

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#16 nadiakat17

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Posted 15 August 2014 - 09:31 AM

this happened to us- my fiance got invited to a destination wedding and i wasn't included....he knows we are planning to get married! very offensive. 



#17 helenk

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Posted 20 August 2014 - 05:10 PM

Wow people suck! That is beyond rude and disrespectful! How could anyone think that is okay?!

#18 TheFutureMrsB7

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Posted 23 August 2014 - 02:54 PM

ask for clarification before jumping to conclusions.  maybe the couple is on a tight budget and they wouldn't be able to afford the extra guests.

 

I had a friend who did the same thing and just invited myself and not my fiancé. i was not offended neither was my fiancé because we understood their was a budget. 



#19 kmk2016

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Posted 23 August 2014 - 03:09 PM

ask for clarification before jumping to conclusions. maybe the couple is on a tight budget and they wouldn't be able to afford the extra guests.

I had a friend who did the same thing and just invited myself and not my fiancé. i was not offended neither was my fiancé because we understood their was a budget.


I actually respectfully disagree.... If a couple has a tight budget that only allows a limited number of guests, then I think you can't invite 1/2 of relationship unit and pretend the other half doesn't exist. Especially on a DW! I think if that was the issue they would have been more proper to simply review their guest list and determine how many couples they could truly afford to have there. If the OPs FI was important enough to have "made the cut to be invited and budget WAS the issue, etiquette dictates that they make room for his FI as well.

#20 TheFutureMrsB7

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Posted 23 August 2014 - 03:15 PM

I actually respectfully disagree.... If a couple has a tight budget that only allows a limited number of guests, then I think you can't invite 1/2 of relationship unit and pretend the other half doesn't exist. Especially on a DW! I think if that was the issue they would have been more proper to simply review their guest list and determine how many couples they could truly afford to have there. If the OPs FI was important enough to have "made the cut to be invited and budget WAS the issue, etiquette dictates that they make room for his FI as well.

 

I understand your point of view and I do think that maybe they should review, I just understand from that brides perspective.  When i do get married i'm not going to invite one and not the other.  I'm just saying people are different and we have to be understanding. :)






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