We don't want kids at our wedding, at all. No part of me wants kids during my time because I work with kids 10 months of the year. I love teaching, and I love kids but not at my wedding. We are planning the week of the wedding to be spent with family and friends, then a week for our honeymoon.
We are trying to avoid all my baby toting BFFs from bringing their poop-producing ear piercing drones. This is where the problem comes in; some are not thrilled that we've chosen an 18+ resort, and have said they'll just stay somewhere else and just bring their kids to the wedding "because I need a ring bearer, flower girl, snot-nosed child at my wedding". I've tried to explain that children are not allowed on the grounds, but some of my friends seem to think that doesn't include their kids.
How can I politely tell these people that we chose an 18+ resort for a reason and that despite how cute they think their kids are that I have no intention of changing my plans. I realize that I could just not send them and invite, but these are people I've known my entire life, hence why they know about the wedding before the STDs have gone out.