Originally Posted by moodyc82
I guess I'm in the I don't care if you can't come phase now. My friend of 8yrs said yes to being a bridesmaid and than literally on the 17th of this month turned around and said she's not even coming to the wedding because she can't afford it (mind you she spend A LOT of money on non important things and will constantly tell me about her elaberate shopping trips). So now I just don't care anymore. If you're there you're there and if you're not than oh well. The people who really matter will show up, and if they want to be a part of our day than great if not it's their loss.
Anyways, I hope your weigh in goes well!!
Sorry about your friend. Something similar happened with my ex friend. we had been friends for YEARS like 12 suppose to be "best friends" but you know how girls are. Anyways, she asked me to be a bridesmaid for her wedding I said yes at the time, and then she decided to do a dest wedding in mexico. At the time I still had a job etc. so i said I would still be down for it in mexico. then I got laid off, had no money, had to go back to school, pay for a mortgage with no job. blah blah blah.
At this point I had still planned on figureing it out and going. But then things kept escalating, she lived in another province and barely talked to me as it was, if i called she didnt answer, text same thing. Drove back with her to where she lives when she came in for a few days and finally saw how her FI was in person, didnt like that too much and kinda put him in his place, and then ever since then it got even worse, that and for someone who says we were "sisters" she had me like 4th in her bridal party, ( not a big deal I know) but it hurt a lot because she was putting ppl before me that she hadnt had a 12 year friendship with.. Needless to say feelings were hurt, I was hurt, didnt have money blah blah blah. So I said You know what at this point i dont think i can go for sure, so if you need to ask someone else then go ahead( i said it in a nice way) and then shit hit the fan from then,
she sent me some text saying that We havent truely been friends for years since a previous incident( that she never told me about so shes been hating me for years over something I didnt recall saying ) and that she didnt want me as a Bm anyways. and that she no longer wanted my friendship.
We havent talked in almost 2 years and her wedding was the august that just past.
I hope it doesnt end up that way for you. I told my girls that i understood from the start if something changed, but they are all coming.. yay!
Sorry for my story rant, Just dont let it get that far. Im still friends with her sister and the rest of her family, but she doesnt like that too much either, She made me realized that I WAS the one who didnt need HER friendship. I invested way too much into someone who never cared