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[terrihugg]

This may be a dumb question, but what is the point of them?

 

I've already decided on getting my BM's Miche Bags. When I told my FI this he asked why. His logic is that since we are covering two hundred dollars from both of their hotel rooms, and allowing them to wear dresses they already own there's no need to get them anything other than the items in the welcome bag everyone else is getting. He also went on to say that they didn't do an engagement party, shower, or bachelorette party, didn't help with anything planning related and didn't really bond over anything special wedding related. 

 

So I tried to give him a good answer and said, it's just to thank them for being there and being in our lives. He said, then thank them with the same favors you are already giving the guests. There is no need to do anything extra. 

 

So it makes me wonder, doe he have point? What is the purpose of giving the bridal party an extra gift. 

[JA2012]

Hmmm...$200 sounds like a good gift to me to be honest. If you want to get them something else and budget allows for it, I'd do something small like jewellery for the day. I've been in weddings where I didn't get a gift at all and I didn't think anything about it. I've also been in weddings where the gift is H&M jewellery. So it's really the thought that counts and doesn't have to be elaborate. It can even be a lunch or tea before you leave. Or go to do your nails when your reach destination and pay for that for them.

[RNtoBe]

Originally Posted by terrihugg 

This may be a dumb question, but what is the point of them?

 

I've already decided on getting my BM's Miche Bags. When I told my FI this he asked why. His logic is that since we are covering two hundred dollars from both of their hotel rooms, and allowing them to wear dresses they already own there's no need to get them anything other than the items in the welcome bag everyone else is getting. He also went on to say that they didn't do an engagement party, shower, or bachelorette party, didn't help with anything planning related and didn't really bond over anything special wedding related. 

 

So I tried to give him a good answer and said, it's just to thank them for being there and being in our lives. He said, then thank them with the same favors you are already giving the guests. There is no need to do anything extra. 

 

So it makes me wonder, doe he have point? What is the purpose of giving the bridal party an extra gift. 

We have paid for their attire for the day and I will be paying for them to get their hair done. I thought it was more practical than purchasing something they will probably never use/wear again. 

[kard613]

I bought my girls (my two sisters) canvas beach bags from etsy and am getting them their jewlery. Then yesterday I was at TJMaxx and found clutches that are perfect (and match the beach bags so they're getting those too! I'm probably going to throw in a few more extras into their beach bag like towels, etc but they're my sisters and they totally deserve it all!

[mscheryl10]

Hair, nails, and $200???? That sounds like enough for BM who are just there......js

[babystace1985]

@terrihugg that is super generous. You're awesome!

[Kyliewylie]

clutches are a cute idea!