Sorry I wasn't finished! but I hit submit in my excitement...it was also midnight.
Woohoo AHR is officially booked. We went with a small venue in our neighborhood. It's not the least expensive option but for what is included its worth it, plus our parents are chipping in. My mom paid the $1,000 deposit and my fiances mother offered to pitch in whatever my mom puts in.
The place is giving us colored linens, centerpieces (our choice of glass vases with white birch branches we can decorate or candelabras), colored moodlighting (which was an $800 expense through the DJ), standard open bar, 8 passed hot hors d'oeuvres ( took me forever to spell that correctly I hate that word), a crudite table, antipasto, salad, a carving station, a pasta station, and a dessert table with italian cookies, cheesecake and cannolis (so I might forego a cake altogether)- all for $55 per person.
I also tried to dissuade my friends and family from throwing me a bridal shower because my fiance and I already live together. My maid of honor told me I was being ungracious and she has been fighting me tooth and nail so I said- do whatever you want. I was just trying to be considerate and save my bridal party and mother some money. We were able to secure a location with a brunch option- bagels, croissants, muffins, scrambled eggs, sausage, pancakes, homefries, one vegetable selection, one chicken, one pasta, coffee & tea, juice, white wine, screwdrivers, mimosas, bloody Mary's and cake- $25 per person. We thought to use this location for the AHR because it would have cut the bill in half but a DJ with a percussionist just did not mix with breakfast.
Anyone in the 5 boroughs of NYC looking for inexpensive AHR options and willing to have them in the Bronx- I now have established a bunch of connects (I also do prom for my high school so they know me in that regard) and I can help with suggestions & prices...oh yea- I'm an expert now lol