Originally Posted by khunt29
Ok Ladies. I just need to vent. I did not realize how stressful and frustrating it would be to plan a destination wedding! We are working with a travel company/wedding planner, and OMG is it ever maddening. I feel like nothing is finalized, we wait weeks for responses, nothing is clear, things aren't communicated well. Has anyone here used a 3rd party to liaise with the hotel? Is it really necessary? I mean, we used her to book the packages for everyone etc, but as far as dealing w/ wedding-specific details, is it not better/easier for me to just communicate w/ Pilar? All we kept hearing was how unresponsive the hotel is, how delayed they are, etc etc. so we got roped into paying $500 to this company who is supposed to make this easier for us, and all we are is frustrated! The old saying "Too many cooks in the kitchen" is ringing true for us, and we are just nervous that things are going to get complicated. I need some reassurance that everything will fall into place once we get there, I am feeling so anxious about it. Maybe I am a bit more Type A than I thought! But it's hard working with a resort out of country, and our travel agent is also out of town, so we have never met, all communication is via email or phone. Am I alone? Overreacting? arghh!!!!
I think all of your concerns are valid. It also appears that you're not alone, as I've read similar things on here from lots and lots of brides... it's a natural reaction to all of this, so I don't see it as you overreacting. It seems like a destination wedding is so easy to plan, but in reality it's seemingly more difficult. There's a lot of things you have to leave in the hands of people you've never met. I'm not going through a travel company or wedding planner (aside from the resort) so I can't relate to the frustrations there. My advice would be to relax as much as possible. Everything I have read from past brides was positive and while it sucks not having great communication, the closer your wedding day gets, the more frequent and helpful the communication will be. If you would feel better about contacting Pilar yourself, do just that. You're the bride, you have that right. Also, something else I've read hundreds of times on here - most of the planning will be done when you get there, which sounds completely dumb, I know. I saw one bride post that her wedding could have been planned in three days. Make sure you bring everything with you, pictures, lists, etc. so when you meet with Pilar you can give her everything and go over all the details. Your wedding is going to be amazing... for you, for your FI, and for all of your guests.
I look forward to seeing your pictures!