Wow, Congrats on your wedding and thanks for writing from your hotel room/honeymoon!
We have gotten every excuse under the sun (when a simple, it's not going to work for us would suffice) so it's great to hear that even though you went through what a lot of us brides are going through now, you had the perfect wedding!!! So glad to hear that everyone got along so well that you're even planning future trips! That's awesome!
Congrats again! And thanks a lot for the words of wisdom! I think that's a great stance to take...just tell the people that don't do that they really missed a great time. There are so many things that I know I want to say to people that have bad excuses for not going (like my future brother-in-law and his wife that refuse to leave their kids behind for a week to come to our wedding together, but three months after our wedding they are leaving their kids with his parents to spend a week in Vegas. How is that different?? I have no idea!), but just telling them that you had a great time and that they missed out is just perfect!
Cause it's true...everyone that doesn't go to all of our weddings, no matter the reason, is just missing out!!
Originally Posted by LPerry
Ok, so since I started this thread, I feel I need to chime in since I just got married on Saturday. Yes, I'm typing this from my honeymoon hotel room. We ended up having 8 additional people with us, and I will tell you right now, it was PERFECT. We were able to spend time with each of our guests. We weren't wrapped up in trying to plan a million activities. I was able to buy great gifts for everyone who came (beach bags, swimsuit cover ups, and plastic insulated cups w/lids to use the entire trip) We had a simple, small wedding and small dinner at one of the restaurants. At one point my husband and I said, "Aren't you glad we didn't have more people here?" We had a perfect group - everyone got along. Everyone had a great time. And even better....we sparked new friendships between our guests who didn't know each other. The most important people were there. The funny thing is, they all kind of admitted they put off booking, but that they were so glad they came. On top of that....we all decided we're going to vacation again together b/c we had so much fun. Even my sister, who just had a baby, and had so much anxiety about coming had a wonderful time. She even said, "Now that I'm here - I just want to relax and help you and have a good time in Mexico"
The bottom line is, don't let it ruin your day or your destination wedding experience. Yes, it hurts your feelings when people say they're coming and they flake out. We had several people bail for "better vacation opportunities". It just really shows you who you are important to. I have solidified my relationships with the people who came here with me. Honestly, looking back on it, I wish I hadn't stressed so much. I was able to marry the sweetest, cutest man I know....and that moment up there with him was the whole reason I did this. Everything else was a beautiful extra. When it's all said and done....you just shrug your shoulders and say...."Wow, you really missed a great time" and it's their loss.
My best wishes go out to each of you as you continue to plan. I hope each of your days is as wonderful and filled with love as mine was.