Sorry this a little long. I have a lot on my mind and I thank anyone with the patience to read this for their help.
I am having a problem with my bridesmaids and I was hoping for some unbiased advice. I have chosen 3 bridesmaids, My friend Trina whom I have known for 20 yrs, my friend Amber whom I have known for 15 years and we used to be super close but have grown apart, and my sister in law Erin whom I have only known about 5 years but she is and awesome person and a fabulous aunt to my daughter.
Here is my dilemma, Trina has been helpful with my wedding (all be it more then a little controlling, since she is married and thinks that she is an expert lol) she wants to be my moh and gets really angry when I tell her that I am having a hard time choosing and she says that know one else would be okay. Now I understand where she is coming from but I hate that she is being so controlling and not understanding that I am trying to be as fair as possible, not to mention that she said she'd be really angry if I didn't choose her. She also keeps getting angry that her husband isn't a groomsman even though my fiance doesn't really know him, she doesn't want her hubby left out which I respect and my FI said he can come along with the guys but not be a groomsman since he doesn't know him and only wants the guys he is closest to up there with him. Now Amber and I have drifted apart but she is still always there when I need her and vice versa, she may not even make it to Mexico which I understand. She said that Catrina shouldn't be my moh and that it's silly that I am having a hard time. Amber also has no interest in the wedding, I don't expect her to drop everything but it would be nice if she responded to the group emails that i send and at least try to have some input when I ask a question. (maybe I am wrong) I did ask if she got the email and she said yes, she honestly isn't very reliable anyway so i guess I can't be too surprised. That's the part about Amber that worries me, I really need someone reliable. Erin has been super helpful, guiding me along since she has also done a destination wedding but she isn't pushy about it, she just suggests things. She is super laid back and just goes with the flow which I love and I feel we get closer all the time especially since she married my FI's brother. She isn't even bothering me about he MOH thing she says I should just pick whomever I want and not care what others think and she right. For that reason I have been leaning towards choosing her, she isn't giving me a hard time and has been super helpful and as I said before easy going.
What Do you ladies think I should do? I hate hurting peoples feelings but I know that one way or the other someone is upset.
Thanks for your help and sorry this was so long.