Wow, I am truly sorry to hear this. I too have in-laws from hell and I have the devil bitch according to them. Not to make light of your situation. I have had the stones thrown at me, only for my husband (then bf) to stand by and allow them to do it. It took us hitting bottom, only one income and the only support was from my mother for him to wake up and see. No I am not trying to take him away from his family, yet when you have people constantly trying to destroy something that God has built, then you really need to look deep inside and see what is worth fighting for.
With all that being said, we too just recently had an argument/disagreement. None of his family is coming and he had the audacity to say that I planned a DW with all intentions of not having any of them there. (Yes this is true but we decided a DW together, so don't paint me as the bad guy) I bend over backwards to accomodate them and all they do is complain and ask why they can't stick their 6!(ks up me @$$ further. Please excuse the foul language. I stay in Virginia, they wanted a wedding in Florida. WTH do I have to travel to a location to accommodate you?!?!? You aren't thinking of no one but yourself.
I am truly sorry, that he allowed them to break up your relationship.
"So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
And God blessed them, and God said to them,
"Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it."
Book of Genesis 1:27-28
Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother
and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Originally Posted by stluciabound
Well chicadees.... It's official. My wedding and my marriage are off. It has taken me this long to be able to physically write the words and you are the first ones to officially here it. Not even the resort knows yet, but somehow I have been lucky enough to find friends in all of you. His family is absolutely the most evil, despicable (sp?) people I have ever had the displeasure of knowing and he is under their spell so I have to move on. I gave him back the ring a month ago and guess where he brought it??? Where else?? but to his mommy. A 31 year old grown man that never showed any signs of being a pathetic mamma's boy in the 4 years we have been together. I thought I was going to throw up. Apparently she was afraid if he left it in our house I would "steal" it. WHAT?!?!?!?! First of all, it's my ring that we paid for using our joint account, second of all I am the one that gave it back to him, and third of all how the HELL can I steal something that was given to me?? I didn't cancel the wedding... he did on account of me not forgiving his family for all the horrible things they did over a 9 month period. If I wanted the damn ring I think I should have it in order to pay back the people that lost money on trusting that we were getting married in St Lucia and loved us enough to actually book (unlike them). But I didn't even ask for that. She is such a sick B***h. Talk about the ultimate slap in the face. Now talk about the ultimate awkwardness... we still live together and function as a unit as we always have on a daily basis. We have decided that we are splitting up, but neither of us can really afford to leave at the moment so we just continue to function as best we can. Honestly our only fights even still are only when his family comes up. How sad to lose your marriage over exterior influences and not your own relationship. I wouldn't believe my own story if I wasn't living through it, but I just know I have to leave. I despise his family, but that doesn't nearly bother me as much as sitting across the table from the man I agreed to marry and watch him watch his family act like pieces of s**t and destroy us and still defend them. I believe once you choose to marry someone that they become the family you have chosen to protect before anyone else. I guess unless you are a closet momma's boy. I am just trying to be as strong as I can and make an effort to laugh more each day than I do cry. As long as I am doing that I know I will be ok. I have made a 6 month plan to move from Fl to the beach in NC near my best friend and cousin, which is halfway closer to my parents in PA. I think a fresh start will be just what I need. He doesn't know of this plan yet. We still need to divide the house/cars/bank/insurance and such. What a mess. Literally a full on divorce less the judge. What a confusing nightmare this is. I wish you all the very best in dealing with each of your situations. I pray I never read a similar post from any of you and only stories of progress and excitement... and amazingly perfect weddings!! Thank you so much for all your support along the way, your support has helped me more than you could ever know. This is one of the few places I never felt alone. Thank you so much ladies!