So without saying too much (or it wouldn't honestly be a book of unfortunate events), I "fired" my MOH on Monday. This was one of the most difficult conversations I have ever had to have. I had a nervous breakdown after she left my house, to the point where I actually couldn't even breathe. I just didn't think this would ever happen.
I feel really sad about having to do it but you sort of get to the final straw when she calls you up and says she is dreading going to your wedding and hates the other bridesmaids... that's the short version there is much more to it but I don't want to get into it all. I also feel like due to her actions she was fishing for an out.
What I do want to ask your opinion on is, once things blow over, I still would still like her to be there on my wedding day, afterall she is one of my closest friends. Is it wrong for me to tell her that I would still like her there and I would even be happy if she would still do a speech? Maybe we will build up to the latter request.
She has been my friend for 24 years, I just don't think that this was the right position for her. It is bad timing in her life and that is okay. We can't do everything but unfortunately I think some of her other stresses crossed over and caused her to not act like herself. She obviously doesn't see it that way but I wonder if over time she will realize that it was a decision based on what is best for both of us. And she will be happier not having to plan the shower, take on any financial burden or deal with my other 6 bridesmaids, etc.
So when do I try to reach out to her? To add to the "drama", her hubby is also a groomsman... so does my FI contact him and ask if he still wants to be part of the day? I just don't know what to do.
I am the least dramatic person ever, so I find it very ironic that my wedding is ending up being so dramatic.
I am not replacing her, I am just not having a MOH anymore. I still want her to be there, she is just not a good fit for the bridal party.