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  1. I actually DO envy you. I wish I had some people that loved me enough to be bridesmaids, alas I don't have a single one. Anyway this isn't about me, it is about you, and I wanted to know if she was demoted to a regular bridesmaid or cut from the lineup altogether? I would demote her, not cut her off completely. I can see her being very upset if she went from MOH to just a guest. I honestly think you are incredibly lucky with 6 bridesmaids traveling to your DW. That alone is more than half my guest count.
  2. This is a really hard time for me. I promised myself I wouldn't care who came regardless, that I would just enjoy time with the guests who did come. There are 11 guests coming. ELEVEN. My fiance really thought we'd have 30, so its tough for him. We invited 100 people. The really harsh part is we had to book one of those guests flights on their behalf, he still has not booked his accommodation and the wedding is in 21 days. Another two guests JUST cancelled, and one had told me up until now he was coming, only to reveal today that his place ticket is costing him 5% more than what he budgeted for. I am angry because I spent HOURS researching flights, accommodations for this guest who is coming from another country, I found him sales, but he waited to long and now the sale has gone up a bit (although it is still a sale). 5% translates to roughly $150... I just don't get it. Now he won't come. You bet we will have a blast with those guests that come, this whole experience INDEED made me really happy about my decision not to have a wedding within my home country. #1 my ENTIRE family is spread out over the country and they would have had to fly in anyways to me, my fiance and his family's location here, and #2 to cancel things with vendors here is not permitted, I would NOT have the flexibility here that I have in a destination wedding. And cancellations would have happened. We have successfully weeded out all the two faced fakers who would have simply come to eat a free dinner. Now we get to the etiquette in which I will be harsh... From the 100 guests we invited, we have only received about 25 RSVP cards back. The due date is passed by nearly two weeks. My entire family has dropped the ball since they only account for 3 of the eleven people, that is my immediate family, and all my other relatives completely blew us off. We received three congratulations cards from the 100 people we invited, no gifts, and I know this sounds pathetic but I am so happy I could cry over those three cards. They are sincere and sweet and framed on my wall and it means me and my new husband will have three people that we know are there for us for LIFE. We also have four events total that we have invited people to attend, stag/stagette, backyard party before we go, wedding, and another welcome backyard party for when we return. Two of those events were planned by my fiance's family because they wanted to give people the maximum opportunity to celebrate with us, BUT unfortunately, these so called family and friends are blowing off every event. They won't even RSVP to a single ONE. We are giving people four chances in three different cities and they wont even try and connect with us. There is always an excuse and it makes me feel alone, since I don't know what I did or didn't do that they care so little for us. I tried really hard to reach out my whole life and it hurts observing how other people don't try at all yet they have family that communicates and comes together so well. I want something like that. I guess when I hear brides complaining about the lack of guests, cards, gifts, whatever it makes me cringe because it makes saying my situation out loud seem so pathetic in comparison to how bad they perceive theirs to be because I don't know anyone who has received as little support as we have from family... Yet I still feel somewhat fortunate. Nothing except a hurricane can keep me from enjoying my wedding day.
  3. I haven't received mail for two weeks now. Our RSVP deadline is July 1st, six days away!!!! I'm really grateful we don't need to let my planner know final numbers until a week before. If I was having a wedding here at home, I would be SO screwed, as the final numbers would need to be in RIGHT NOW. What I am most worried about is that any cards or letters will be lost in the mail, those are irreplaceable and also I will not know who to send thank you cards to. If I don't send a card to someone who sent a gift because it never ARRIVED, its going to look so bad on me.
  4. I am so glad to see this because I thought I was the only one ever who hates these sites!!! STP actually has a destination wedding page but honestly I've looked at these sites, plus Once Wed, and Destination inspirations and all I take away from it is that 1) these are almost always styled photo shoots, not real weddings 2) they all look the same 3) the brides almost ALWAYS have runway type body shapes that makes me feel like crap about mine. I stopped looking at these sites because it was really skewering what I thought a bride should look like and also I didn't like that it seemed like a big catalogue of goods to purchase. I never did but wedding magazines so I guess I am pretty biased.
  5. Wow so many Mexico brides!!! Count me in too- August 2nd 2011 Belize I am pretty behind but the wedding coordinator says its ok- Island time is the best Can't believe we are just over 2 months away!
  6. I wish I could help you but I've been looking for the same info!!! I do not live in the USA so my choices of wedding insurance simply do not exist. I am afraid that a traveler insurance broker is going to charge WAY too much and that it will NOT include what it needs to! Most of the helpful info I have found here : http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/thread/1321/post-all-your-wedding-insurance-travel-insurance-info-and-questions-here Doesn't help much if you live outside the USA, but I'll keep posted here on the search for hurricane coverage.
  7. This may be the most informative thread I have EVER read! Its been fun lurking around and seeing everyones weddings approaching, then seeing them in this thread. The things I am going to consider most from what you have all said are 1) don't feel bad about splurging on the photography 2) get that bustle back-up and extra pins!!! 3) put together small OOT bags 4) do my own makeup!!! We will see in just over 60 days how I feel...
  8. I completely agree too, for me the biggest stressor has been guest concerns. There are many who say they are coming but with just over 60 days to go they have not even thought of booking, even when I sent them airplane seat sales and let them know that the resorts are filling up. For most people they haven't wanted to book the flights yet because "$500 on a return ticket seems like a lot of money to spend at once", but my point is that when the flights go up to $900 in a few weeks that is a LOT more money!!!! Why do people not get this? So yes, I am totally worried that people who said they were going to come will not come because they left planning too late and the prices go up for everything. How is that my problem? Gah! My meager guest count of 16 will probably drop down to 12 or less
  9. When are you thinking of going? I think its a great idea- the prices there are really good and especially on Ambergris Caye its really low key atmosphere. Getting to Belize is tough but its part of the adventure I think.
  10. Whoa I don't think I have a playlist quite like any other here- me and Fiance are alt rock fans, we love unusual songs old and new. A lot of people may not recognize these but I bet if you plug them into YouTube and have a listen you will like them!!! Ceremony and Cocktail hour are steel pan band. Dinner: City and Colour - The Girl redemption song - Bob Marley thank you - Led Zeppelin Into the Mystic - Van Morrison love song - The Cure do you realize - The Flaming Lips Only one - The Black Keys things behind the sun - Nick Drake heaven (acoustic) - Bryan Adams With or without you - U2 Hard Sun - Eddie Vedder endlessly - Muse meeting in the aisle - Radiohead Ill be your man - The Black Keys Wild Horses - Rolling Stones Iron lion zion - Bob Marley Shuffle your feet -Black Rebel Motorcycle Club I Follow Rivers (moon) - Lykke Li One - U2 A Million Miles an Hour - Eastern Conference Champions Who Do You Love? - George Thorogood everlasting light - The Black Keys First Dance: Sea of Love - Cat Power Parent's tribute songs: Evergreen - Barbra Streisand unchained melody - Righteous Brothers Slow songs: Could I have this dance - Ann Murray (request from relative) Forever - Ben Harper Make you feel my love - Adele cover of Bob Dylan always be right there - Bryan Adams lady in red -Chris Deburgh (tribute to father) Turn Your Lights Down Low - Bob Marley Kiss the Girl - Little Mermaid drive - The Cars (use as last slow song) Dance Songs: Thunderstruck - AC/DC (request from father) Sunshine of Your Love - Cream dancing in the moonlight - Thin Lizzy white wedding - Billy Idol Is This Love - Bob Marley girl I love you - Massive Attack heartbeats - The Knife just say yes - Snow Patrol have love will travel - The Black Keys Spread your love - Black Rebel Motorcycle Club Get Some - Lykke Li Money for Nothing - Dire Straights (request from best friend) Undisclosed Desires - Muse Dancing in the streets - Mick Jagger and David Bowie fool in the rain - Led Zeppelin A Girl Like You - Edwyn Collins One More Time - Daft Punk The People - The Music Superfreak - Rick James Finish Night with: angel - Massive Attack young at heart - Tom Waits I will need to cut down the list for time but for now this is what I have.
  11. Hi I think the reason you can't find the song is because it was composed most likely for the bride and groom by someone they know. Perhaps try googling the name of the person, with tags like 'composer', 'music', 'musician' you may get a hit. Whoever wrote it probably won't give it to you free though, just something to keep in mind.
  12. I responded to BeachBridein11 in a Private message, but wanted to repeat it here- I am getting married in Belize and its not an all inclusive. My wedding planner down there is also free and the resort isn't taking a cut out of any of the vendors so that is likely why the cost of my band is lower. One thing I suggest is perhaps looking at local forums of the city you are getting married in, or local newspaper, and post an ad for a band. They can send audition mp3 to you and everything, you can always chat on Skype too. If your resort won't let you bring in outside vendors that is really too bad- I would consider reducing whatever tips your wedding planner or organizers are getting in that case
  13. I posted this in another thread but just wanted to let you ladies know that one way to get a seamless crossfade from one song into another with no awkward gaps is to download a program like Audacity (free) or Soundtrack Pro (not free, but what I own) and place the songs in a timeline in the order you want them. You can then adjust them to what you want, and export as a new audio track. What I have done is combine groups of three to four songs together so that they are in 'chunks', and I rename them something obvious like "first dance and next three songs" "songs for parents tribute" or "uptempo dance". Nice thing about iPods is it will store all your metadata you enter so even if you don't use the names of the songs in the song title you can write in in the Info tab in case you forget the song names.
  14. My fiance has always wanted a bobble-head of his own likeness, so I will be getting one with me and him and it will be the cake topper!!! The REAL gift to him of course will be a boudoir book, it will be off the hook!!!
  15. I really understand your frustration. When me and my fiance got engaged we were away from home and staying at a family members house. When we got back to the house after the proposal, the family member informed us that her son in law was leaving her daughter. The following hour was extremely awkward as we were bursting with joy to share our excitement but so sad for the family!!! We did tell them our good news, and it was ok, but then two weeks later her other daughter separated from her husband too!!!!! Good news is now both daughters are back with the husbands since then, and the family member whom we were staying with at the time of our engagement is coming to our wedding despite our jinx on her daughters! So sometimes the most unexpected drama happens with family, I really do think it all works out and don't worry about being informed with them because they probably don't want to rain on your parade with bad news of their own right before your wedding. You are still 3 months and so much can happen in that time, the situation could turn around completely.
  16. Hi 1 Montego Bride, I am a super freak when it comes to audio & music (part of my profession) I would recommend you use a program like audacity (free) or soundtrack pro (not free but what I use) to mix and crossfade your music. What I am doing is blocking a few songs together in the order I want and mixing them into each other seamlessly. That way there are no awkward pauses between songs and it just flows... Like the tears I hope to have during the lovely romantic and tribute songs!
  17. We aren't going to suggest songs for our band to play- instead I want them to feel out the vibe and play whatever inspires them. One song I think would be adorable is 'kiss the girl' from little mermaid- I may ask them to play/learn it in advance but I haven't decided! My fiance loves that song! The very talented and professional steel pan band playing at our ceremony and cocktail hour is $300.00 for the two hours, $100.00 for any additional hour and the cost of transport to ceremony site ($40) and a few drinks + snacks which we insist on providing. I am not sure if I am just getting a great deal or if some of you ladies are getting a bad deal. Some of your quotes seem waaay too steep
  18. What a nice gesture!!! We will be giving our photographer the same OOT bag as everyone else. Also, it seems a lot of people do not include their photographer in dinner service or even provide food. In our case the photographer will be sitting down with us and eating what any other guest will eat. We are inviting her to the welcome dinner as well as any events that are planned. I don't plan on tipping but I do plan on buying an extra album or two for family after the wedding.
  19. I was in L.A for a day in April and I went to see Dori at Milk & Honey to design my shoes. I had a pretty solid idea in mind, I wanted a design I absolutely could not find in stores for over a year and I looked HARD. it was fabulous to sit down with Milk & Honey and see the fabric in person, look at the window of shoes and talk about the design. Dori is a great person, I am so excited to see how the design comes together! I still have a few more weeks until it will be shipped and I certainly recommend this company. I'll shore photos when the shoes arrive
  20. Thank you all for your replies. I feel MUCH better about the slideshow now that you say that you've seen it done, and it was nice. I've never seen one so I'm willing to give it a chance. Biggest concern is the technical A/V stuff for it, but the idea for the digital photoframe is awesome! At the venue there is also a bar and pool table, so I suppose if people want something to do there is that. There is also the dancefloor, areas to take photos and mingle. I talked to my folks and I think games are out the window- they still would like to surprise up with something and it may take a while to convince them to do it at the welcome dinner instead. But they do see our point now. Since we are having an open bar, I think people will be very entertaining as it is! So we will have ceremony w/music, cocktail hour w/music, dinner and conversation starters, speeches/toasts, photos and dancing. Sounds like so much already. If anyone has any more ideas (photo hunt was VERY clever) please share!
  21. Hi there! I am having no bridal party because I couldn't bear to ask anyone to commit to coming and spending money. I think that six bridesmaids is a lot- you are very lucky! Having a shower, bachelorette and also a farewell party is quite a few events too. I am not sure what it is about the shower that you would like your bridesmaids to pay for- I thought showers are usually held at someone's home, and you provide a few bottles of champagne? I am not sure what costs are expected of showers, typically very few other than a few drinks. Some people bring gifts and it would be a shame to ask them to pay for more I think. So you may have to clarify that. If your girls are already paying for your bacheloette, I wouldn't ask them to pay for the shower. Unless they asked of course. Since your bridesmaids are already paying for so much, especially their own dresses (that is something I would personally cover if I had a wedding party) I would advise against asking them to cover any payments, especially if they are also planning your bachelorette and shower. Just my two cents!
  22. I am currently negotiating with my family when it comes to the wedding reception. They are suggesting that I need to entertain my guests. We are already having a steel pan band play during cocktail hour, and for the reception, we have our best friend acting as the MC. We are having a menu style sit down dinner and open bar. After dinner, I want to open the floor for toasts and speeches. We will have some dancing, more drinking and thats about it. It was supposed to be a suprise but I guessed that my mom was planning a photo slideshow. She already started collecting pictures and involved FMIL who said to my mom that she thought slideshows were for funerals... Which is what I kinda think too. I am not keen on a photo slideshow as its going to involve computers, projectors, audio all sorts of technical things that can go wrong. I suggested a 'caption this photo' game instead that can go on through the evening, where guests write under a photo what the caption should say. My mom wasn't too thrilled about that. Secondly, on my parents side they seem to have the idea that a bride and groom should be embarassed and play games at the wedding. At my cousins wedding they played the newlywed shoe game which was cute, not embarassing and my mom wants us to do that but there are only going to be 15-20 of us and we dont think it will work. I am trying to placate my folks with other ideas, and I'm coming up short, this is a wedding not a circus and I suppose with only 15-20 people I don't see why they will get bored. I don't really want to be embarassed on my wedding day, I mean I'm willing to be silly but I grew up with a family that thinks its funny to put each other down and would always tell me to laugh at myself more... Is it so bad that I don't want humiliating stories and embarassing games on my wedding day? My parents seem to think its necessary to entertain the guests, but the guests that are coming are very classy people and I don't really want to be embarassed at their expense. I have a good sense of humour but there is a time and place for everything, right? Any suggestions would be GREAT from you all!!!
  23. I just saw this thread from a couple months back and I too had a terrible experience with this consultant. Twice. Once for my own wedding dress try ons, she seriously rushed and tried to pressure me into the dresses. I bought my dress at Bellos, I had great service and the prices were really good too. The second time I went to Bryans was to get fitted for a BM dress for my friends wedding and this consultant didn't remember me, thank goodness. But she was RUDE and EVIL about my measurements. I measure 5'4'', 118 lbs, bust 33.5, waist 27 and hips 36.5 She made many comments about dresses fitting poorly on me. I hated her comments because I'm fit and I work VERY hard to stay healthy. When it came to ordering the dress she only gave the bride 2 minutes to choose the shade she wanted, and the colour chart was not even close to accurate. And the kicker- this consultant MADE ME SIGN a form saying that they were not responsible for ordering a smaller size dress than I could fit. The size the consultant wanted me to order was a 10 at 36.5 - 28.5 - 39.5. It was stupid and I would have been swimming in it. They just wanted to charge for alterations I bet. I settled with the 8 which was 35 - 27 - 37.5, still too big a six would have been perfect but I didn't want to make a scene with my best friend paying for it. I also heard the consultants talking right in front of us about other customers and badmouthing them. It was so bad. My dress from Bellos looks 500% better than the sample I tried on, they ordered my correct size and it needs NO alteration outside of adding a bustle! I am really happy with my experience there. My mom was really emotional when we went for my first fitting and the consultants were so cute about getting her a box of tissues before the tears came. My consultant was fighting the hordes of women for me looking through the sales racks and had suggested the dress I ended up purchasing, she absolutely got what I wanted and I was being very specific. Her name was Angus I believe and I hope she is still there. The second consultant who helped me at the fitting was really sweet too.
  24. I had eyelash extensions put in, misencil to be exact, and have conflicting feelings about it. I had a very qualified friend do it and she did a great job. I had them done because although my lashes are really long, they are blond and thin. During the appointment my eyes watered and stung like heck, it really wasn't fun. They also got bloodshot. I don't know if perhaps I did have an allergic reaction, but the lashes itched/stung for a good three weeks. They looked really dramatic, I had 14mm ones put in the center since my natural ones there were 10mm. I think these were too long, even though misencil is a very light lash it still pulled. They lasted a LONG time, in fact I still have 3 on each eye over 12 weeks later. I had to trim them to match my other eyelashes since they looked silly. I don't know what the natural lifespan of lashes are, but I didn't really lose most of them until about 8-9 weeks in. The cost was $150 with special facewash. I used SO much oil on my face and around my eyes and I am certain it didn't dislodge any of them. Because of the irritation I don't think I will do this again. Also, my lashes looked a bit scraggly when they started to fall out- I think they were causing the lashes to fall out prematurely. That said they are starting to grow back a bit more normal now but I think it will take another month or two for them to return to normal. I think I will go with just a bit of clear mascara and a few individual temporary lashes to fill in thin areas for my wedding.
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