Etiquette is not to impose on others when you choose to have a destination wedding. The choice is yoursâ€¦but you are giving up the right to all those gifts by choosing a venue that you know most people can not attend. And you NEVER invite someone to a reception and not the wedding, which is technically what you are doing because you already know they can not attend the wedding by choosing a far away venue that it too expensive for most to attend.
Enjoy your day, have it all exactly as you want it. However, having a reception when you get home is just screaming for gifts. It's rude and selfish.
I have attended 4 receptions at home,(will not go to any more) after the destination wedding and you would be shocked to hear what your guests really think of you. They know they are only there because you want a gift from them.
If the gifts are that important to you, choose a venue they are able to attend.