So I am dealing with TONS of family drama.
Travis and I got engaged in October 2010. We had origionally planned our wedding for 5/26/12. My mother suggested we move it to a closer date and get married in the fall. We then set a date for 9/10/11. We were very excited and began to plan, it was 11 month away!
6 Months before, my father, who said he was paying for everything, ripped the carpet out from underneath us and told us he just didn't have the money and couldn't afford the wedding. He was also furious that my mother (my parents went through a brutal divorce ( wasn't paying for anything.) This made him change his mind and suddenly, there were no wedding plans.
I was extremely upset. I, of course, went to my mother for guidance. She suggested we do the destination wedding. She suggested that we rented a Villa in the caribbean and get married in a chapel.
More and more weeks were passing and I still had not made a decision. I tried speaking to my mother about what to do. I told her that I felt like I had no one to help me make decisions and I felt on my own. Right away she concluded that this was because of money. She got extremely mad and stopped speaking to me. This was in March and she has yet to speak to me.
In the meantime we had to make some plans. We decided to go forward to our wedding at the Moon Palace in Cancun Mexico.
We booked the resort and sent out the invites.
Because of the short planning, basically no one is coming. It's very upsetting to know that even with getting an invite my mother can't get over her own pride to congratulate her daughter.
I also go a nasty e-mail from my sister, who was married at 16 and divorced by 25.
She thinks we're making a mistake. Although we're a great couple she thinks that we are just going to get divorced. And that we are "rushing" into a marriage.
I am not sure where this is coming from other than the fact that my mother must me talking behind my back.
Travis and I have been friends for 10 years, we have dated for 4, we own a house together and we've been engaged for just about 9 months right now. How can your own family members be so jaded at such an important time in someone's life.
It's all very hurtful....how are any of your handling family wedding drama?