I almost gave up on my planning thread because after several attempts to upload pics and the computer freezing I was FUSTRATED BEYOND belief. It was important to share my experience with all of you because this website was a LIFESAVER!!! I donâ€™t know what I would have done if I didnâ€™t have other brides to talk to and vent to throughout the process of planning!!!. Not to mention my husband and friends would think I went mad if I shared every detail with them! I have gained friends through this website and feel good when another Bride thanks me for advice and guidance!! Well here goes how it all beganâ€¦..
It all began Feb 5th, 2009. My soon to be fianc©â€™ surprised me with tickets to an Aaron Lewis Concert at Mohegan Sun. Little did I know he would have Aaron dedicate the song â€œtangled up in youâ€ to me on stage. As Aaron started to sing Pete was down on one knee and asked if I would marry him. I am not quite sure I said â€œyesâ€œ my exact words after one too many glasses of wine was â€œare you fâ€™in serious?â€ Yes- I had a HUGE potty mouth and I must re-live it every time I play the video?!! Yes my proposal is on You-tube with over 5000 hits. I didnâ€™t even know I would be recording my own engagement. It was a tradition that I video â€œtangled up in youâ€ at each concert we went to. After the song Aaron asked â€œwad she say kid?â€ and of coarse my soon to be fianc© at the time screamed yes. Aaron then pulled out a note from his back pocket and started to read it â€œThe note said will you please dedicate this song to Janine from Pete because when you play â€œtangled up in youâ€ I am going to propose to her.
Pete and I after the concert:
We got back stage and met Aaron!!!
I was lucky enough to be taking a video of the song So I captured his proposal!!
Wad she say kid?
The very next day the planning began!!!!
So you are thinking of having a destination wedding because you think itâ€™s going to be easier, less expensive? Hmm. think again. .. Costs quickly add up. Make sure you know what you are getting into. I donâ€™t regret my decision for a second. My wedding was everything I ever dreamed of and more.
I knew a DESTINATION WEDDING was exactly what I wanted from day one. The thought of 250 people was not what my husband and I envisioned how the day we said our â€œI DOâ€™sâ€. We imagined our closest friends and family, on a beach, by the water, at sunset and thatâ€™s exactly what we got.
How to pick a destination? Make sure wherever you decide to get married that it holds a special place in your heart. My husband and I took a few trips to Mexico so I knew it was where I wanted it all to happen.
What to think about before you decide?
Are you a detail oriented person like me? If you are BE PREPARED! Things donâ€™t always go as planned. You are dealing with wedding planners in another country. You quickly realize that dealing with someone over email that doesnâ€™t speak or write English very well can be very frustrating. Communication can be a challenge because you might not receive an email back for weeks. Know all of this before you commit and place a down payment on your BIG DAY!
Price for your guests.
This should be a concern since many people will be taking a quick vacation to celebrate in your big day! Make sure that you work with a travel agent (I highly recommend a travel agent that specializes in destination weddings) to secure a blocked room rate for your guests. They will also have a payment plan that might be helpful for some. We decided on an all inclusive resort so that our guests wouldnâ€™t have to worry about other expenses while they were there. Make sure if you do plan a destination wedding that you book far in advance so that prices arenâ€™t too expensive. Airline tickets get a lot more expensive closer to the date of travel.
Will it be a legal ceremony or symbolic?
This is an important question. Many countries, like Mexico, will require you be in the country several days prior to your wedding date and have blood tests there. You also will need to see if the state in which you reside in will accept a marriage certificate from your destination country. We decided to have a small church ceremony the day before we left and a symbolic ceremony there. Another thing to think about is who will be your officiant or Justice of the Peace. Some hotels provide it with their wedding packages. We chose to have a close friend officiate the ceremony. He personalized our ceremony and made our vows incredibly special. I would highly recommend using someone you know and trust who is confident in his/her public speaking.
How many guests will actually come to your destination wedding?
This is a tough one. Make a list and ask people you love if they think they would be able to come. This is the most important day of your life and you want to make sure a majority of your closest friends and family will be able to surround you with love. Weigh the pros and cons. People will inevitably back out. Things come up and you just canâ€™t get upset. My mother was unable to travel to Mexico at last minute and it was upsetting to know she wouldnâ€™t see me get married that day.
Ok so now you DECIDED a DESTINATION WEDDING is the way to goâ€¦.. Now you will have to start your planning.
this planning thread to be continued....