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#11 royalbride610

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    Posted 13 April 2011 - 12:39 PM

    I totally understand that feeling! We got that response about people coming to our wedding in Cancun! I understand that everyone can't afford to come, so we decided that we are going to have an informal reception when we come back...  But apparently that's not good enough for everyone & they think we're supposed to do something more upscale.  But the purpose of not having an at home wedding is to save money, so were not going to spend an outrageous amount of money on the reception.  I think people just need to suck it up and shut up! If they don't like it don't come, but who are they to complain about something that they aren't hosting or paying for! 

     

    Well, hope you get back the response's you want and maybe people will realize that they should keep their simple remarks to themselves...



    #12 nairay

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      Posted 13 April 2011 - 03:07 PM

      Sorry to hear about all the troubles!  It's hard to believe some people reply that way -  after all, it's a celebration of your wedding for those who are not able to attend!  Don't let it get to you - maybe they can't get past the idea that if they're not there for the ceremony, what's the point?  At any rate, those that *will* want to come to the AHR will be there for you and have a great time; that should matter the most, instead of hearing people grumble about it. 



      #13 baileybutton

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        Posted 13 April 2011 - 05:03 PM

        I'm so sorry you are going though this. I agree that I think alot of people (maybe older traditional people) may not understand the DW idea.


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        #14 deannamarie85

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          Posted 14 April 2011 - 10:55 AM



          Originally Posted by nairay 

          Sorry to hear about all the troubles!  It's hard to believe some people reply that way -  after all, it's a celebration of your wedding for those who are not able to attend!  Don't let it get to you - maybe they can't get past the idea that if they're not there for the ceremony, what's the point?  At any rate, those that *will* want to come to the AHR will be there for you and have a great time; that should matter the most, instead of hearing people grumble about it. 



          I think that might be it! Feels like some family and friends don't see the point of coming when they are missing the ceremony. We see it as a once-in-a-lifetime celebration of our marriage even if the 15 min ceremony already happened a month ago!  Everyone's responses have been helping me to see the bright side of things! Besides.....I am leaving in 19 days to beautiful Jamaica...so who cares!!! :)



          #15 LisaMatterni

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            Posted 15 April 2011 - 05:28 PM

            Sorry to hear about that. You can celebrate your AHR with the closest ones. For sure you still have immediate family relatives and friends who will attend to the event. 



            #16 deannamarie85

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              Posted 18 April 2011 - 11:48 AM



              Originally Posted by LisaMatterni 

              Sorry to hear about that. You can celebrate your AHR with the closest ones. For sure you still have immediate family relatives and friends who will attend to the event. 



              thank you, you are right! Now what to do about all the guests that still have not rsvp'd?



              #17 greysgirl

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                Posted 18 April 2011 - 12:08 PM



                Originally Posted by deannamarie85 

                I am getting so frustrated and hurt by all of our AHR response cards. My family could not afford a DW so my fiance and I are going away just the two  of us, then when we return we are having a formal AHR. We are going all out since this is what the parent's wanted...photographer, videographer, catering,live music,etc. We sent out save-the-dates over six months ago and formal invitations two months ago. Now that we are getting the r.s.v.p. cards back, there are so many "no" responses from close family members like aunts,cousins,etc! There have even been a few cards where people have written things like "have fun at your party" or "sorry i can't come to your little party" WTH??? Am I just looking at this situation wrong?


                 

                We ran into a little bit of this too since we just went away the 2 of us last week.  Our AHR is in less than 2 weeks, and while we have had lots of "yes" RSVPs, we had some surprising "no's"....like one of his "best friends".  I think that people also don't take it as seriously since it's not technically a wedding.  For us, we decided that what was important to us was our wedding on the beach, and we accepted that not everyone would be as excited about our AHR as we are.  That being said, try to let other's nonchalant attitudes roll off of your back.  What's most important is YOUR day, not their opinions:)  Best wishes.
                 

                 



                #18 deannamarie85

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                  Posted 19 April 2011 - 10:37 AM



                  Originally Posted by greysgirl 




                   

                  We ran into a little bit of this too since we just went away the 2 of us last week.  Our AHR is in less than 2 weeks, and while we have had lots of "yes" RSVPs, we had some surprising "no's"....like one of his "best friends".  I think that people also don't take it as seriously since it's not technically a wedding.  For us, we decided that what was important to us was our wedding on the beach, and we accepted that not everyone would be as excited about our AHR as we are.  That being said, try to let other's nonchalant attitudes roll off of your back.  What's most important is YOUR day, not their opinions:)  Best wishes.
                   

                   


                  Thanks greysgirl! It's always nice to hear from another "twobie" who decided to go the same route as we did! I believe I read your review on the April 2011 thread! :) Congrats on your new marriage and keep us updated on how the AHR turns out!

                   



                  #19 STAC8228

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                    Posted 04 June 2011 - 05:48 PM

                    I haven't even sent out save the date & have already gotten lots of "sorry we cant come" to the DW from majority of my family that i am close to  ( you have a Year to save) & its in California from Ohio, & hotel is covered, so it would just be Airfare.. I was hurt & wanting to elope but like another family member said, those that want to be there will be there,



                    #20 Ms Di

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                      Posted 04 June 2011 - 06:54 PM

                      My thought is, again, this is your time....if you have a "formal" AHR or whatever and they do not want to come it will be them that misses out. Have fun with who shows up and "PARTY" the time away!!!






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