My Sister-zilla........what are your thoughts on this?

[Lizk23]

Good for you for taking the high road! I'm glad you aren't letting any drama get you down or foil your planning. I totally agree once her wedding comes and goes she will probably be much more helpful and active with yours. Ugh, wedding dress shopping is SO a big deal! She's probably just a little jealous of you and your wedding plans but who wouldn't be you're getting married in paradise afterall ! =D I hope talking to her will help your situation. I'd just try to emphasize how excited you are for BOTH weddings and how fun and cool you think it is that you two can share the experience of getting married and planning your own weddings together. Good luck

 

Originally Posted by Janet1480 

Thanks Lizk23

 

I would LOVE if we could bounce ideas off each other and share in the wedding planning experience, it would be nice to have my sister participate. I invited her dress shopping with the other BM's but she decided not to come because she felt like wedding dress shopping for herself that day instead...she didnt have an apt to do this ahead of time and it wasnt planned. I actually expressed to her that since i am her MOH and she is mine and we are sisters that it would have been nice to share in her wedding dress shopping experience with her (trying to put a posiitive spin on things) and she said "its not a big deal" so she didnt come. I am usually not one to complain about these types of situations. But she isnt making it easy! I hope she will come around and since her wedding is in May, hopefully she will be more active in my planning from May to October. On the bright side, I am taking the high road....I am helping her with her planning, designing her invitations and i am going to do what i can to make her day as special as it should be!

 

 

[Janet1480]

I think the whole thing actually bothers FI more then me...he wants me to be happy and is annoyed that she is stressing me out during this amazing time in our lives but i told him not to worry! I am still having fun!

 

Thanks for your comments and well wishes!

 

Originally Posted by Lizk23 

Good for you for taking the high road! I'm glad you aren't letting any drama get you down or foil your planning. I totally agree once her wedding comes and goes she will probably be much more helpful and active with yours. Ugh, wedding dress shopping is SO a big deal! She's probably just a little jealous of you and your wedding plans but who wouldn't be you're getting married in paradise afterall ! =D I hope talking to her will help your situation. I'd just try to emphasize how excited you are for BOTH weddings and how fun and cool you think it is that you two can share the experience of getting married and planning your own weddings together. Good luck

 

 

[snowbeltchick]

Good luck with the chat   Hope things work out.   

[Janet1480]

Thanks, me too!

Originally Posted by snowbeltchick 

Good luck with the chat   Hope things work out.   

[BeachBridein11]

From reading everything, I'm quite impressed and happy to see that you're maintaining a "happy" attitude towards the issue.  Venting definitely helps!  You can't change her attitude, but you can definitely control yours!  Stick with the No Worries and just smile! 

[Janet1480]

Thanks BeachBridein11....I am certainly trying my best! Venting does help and getting unbiased opinions helps too. I dont want to vent too much to my family and friends because i dont want to ruin my or her wedding in their eyes either! BDW is great for more then just planning, its therapeutic LOL

 

Thanks for listening ladies!

 

Originally Posted by BeachBridein11 

From reading everything, I'm quite impressed and happy to see that you're maintaining a "happy" attitude towards the issue.  Venting definitely helps!  You can't change her attitude, but you can definitely control yours!  Stick with the No Worries and just smile!