Since letting some people know we were planning a destination wedding, we've received some negative feedback from a few friends and family, namely "who do they think they are expecting us to spend that much? along with constant reminders that "no one will want to come."
I know I'm not alone. I was planning to send STDs to everyone (about 150ppl) I would invite to an "at home" wedding because I wouldn't want to leave anyone out. I do NOT expect even a quarter of those people to attend, but I still wanted them to feel included, if that makes sense. (We are not having an at home reception for money reasons, but my mom is throwing me a bridal shower.)
In an effort to help my friends and family understand that I don't expect ANYTHING from them (even a gift if they can't come, I don't want people to think I'm gift grabbing by inviting) I wanted to include a little note/poem enclosed with the STDs that basically says "We know you will be with us in spirit if you aren't able to make it, we know having a wedding in Punta Cana makes it difficult to attend, we would love it if you were able to come but understand if you can't, don't feel like you have to send a gift," WITHOUT sounding so tacky! Is there a more eloquant way to say these things? I'm really losing sleep over this because I don't want people thinking I expect the world from them. This wedding is about me, my fiance, and our little girl (and one on the way).