I was 50/50 on a destination wedding. I asked each person that I had to have there, if I were to have one, would they be able to come. When I got the go ahead.. then I booked the first 10 and 37 others followed. And possibly more as they need to wait to get closer to the date. I felt guilty at times, then mad and now i'm indifferent. I got the same "comments" from a sibling. My answer was that they are getting a vacation out of it, and if they persist on trying to make me feel guilty, that I rather not talk to them about it. Of course, I got an instant apology, and I do believe that there has not been any other comments to anyone else.
But lets face it, here, away... a wedding brings out the worst comments, and opinions. We just have to remember to make it our own and about your and your husband to be.
The best comment that i've heard is.. "I can't believe how many people are actually going!!"... Its not like we are asking people to walk across hot coals, or participate in a satanic ritual... its still a vacation for them after all!!!
lol... i guess i had more pent up hostility than I thought!!! Sorry for the rant!
Originally Posted by mmcst38
It is kind of comforting to know other BDW brides are having this same issue. My FI and I were very reassuring (or so I thought) to explain to people, that we COMPLETELY understand if they can not make it to our wedding no matter what the reasoning, money/time/fear of travel. We are having a casual AHR to include everyone in the celebration. Thought everything was going great with reactions to our decision on a DW until my FI, sister-in-law (just as of 5/10) made the comment that she can't afford to buy new pots and pans because she "HAS" to go to Jamaica in the spring, and that now she can't get pregnant right away because she will have to fly, and has also commented that the price of flights has went up....its not so much what she said (eventhough its all ridiculous) but the context and tone in which she said it, Nevermind that we just spent how much money and used days off of work for their wedding!
Sorry for the long rant, its just no one else has been able to remotely understand why this is so rude to me....she also commented..."you're allowed to have a shower if you get married,away"