This seems so wierd, but I am soooo frustrated and I dont know what to do.
One of my bridesmaid is one of my closest friends (or I thought so) We met when my FI's bestfriend started dating her 6yrs ago. We really hit it off and started hanging out more than the guys did.
They got engaged last mothers day and then we did shortly after they did; a couple days after the canadian thanksgiving last year.
It was so much fun. I helped her with her planning, and she helped with some of mine. If she had issues or worries I would listen and try to help out in anyway I could. I wasnt in the wedding party, as she had other family obligations. And my FI was the bestman so that was fine.
She got married this past July and came back from her honeymoon a changed person,
2 days after she got back from her honeymoon we met and went for lunch and then went to get some of the things off her registry together, that she didnt recieve as gifts.
At that time there were a couple of things that were bothering me about the wedding, and at lunch she kept changing the subject and talking about her wedding that just passed and her honeymoon. I left it alone because I would have still been on that high as well.
Well it has been almost 2 months since her wedding and things are not any better. In fact I try not to talk about our wedding at all. We were having issues with people booking and then found out that the plane we were flying on was almost full. When I brought this up, she told me that our wedding is alot of money and james and i should not have any expectations..... bla bla bla.... and really any conversation that I have with her she just shoots me down. The only thing I could talk to her about was my first bridal shower.
She had begged my MOH and I to do it before her own wedding came about and she went nuts. It was fantastic and so beautiful. But she ran crazy with it. But that is over now, and she is even starting drama about that (so I hear from my mom, who heard from my sister-in-law (bridesmaid) who heard from either my MOH, or the trouble making bridesmaid)
She went crazy with spending money, and she is now expecting my MOH I guess to pay for it all, even though when she begged to do it, and my MOH asked if she wanted help at that time she was told no.
I am so sorry this is so long but I need to get it out.
On the day of the shower she barely said 2 words other than hi and this is what we are doing. She didnt even stick around after. Once everything was cleaned up she was gone. It was in my MOH's house. Ever since then we havent really spoken either.
My MOH and I also found saw that in a game that was played where all the wedding partys names were in it, hers was missing for some reason....
She is also causing trouble with my FI. James (my FI) was the bestman for her husband and james put a lot of time and $ into planning the bachelor party for him. He even had to book 2 days off work. They went on a camping trip for 2 days. Had a great time in the wilderness with the boys. lol
Now she is putting restraints on her husband on what to do, she doesnt want money spent out of their pocket, or time taken off, etc. James is super pissed. We are also doing a legal ceremony in our home town before we leave so that the family members who cannot come can see us get married. and because it is a week day she is not letting her husband take the time off for that and she said she wont be coming either.
There is only 3 months to go till our wedding and I am getting so frustrated. I dont want to say anything to her, just in case she decides that they are now going to stay home, which will mean no Bestman... but I dont know what to do...
Thanks so much for reading the whole story and for anyones advice in advance.