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#1 skadow

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    Posted 03 August 2010 - 08:35 PM

    I did try to search for this topic but I didn't find it.


    Who should all receive flowers? I am going to have about 30 people at my wedding.



    4 people are standing up in the wedding party

    2 plus me and the FI,

    3 plus the parents....................Do I need to give one to my dad's girlfriend who I have met like 5 times?

    2 plus the flower girl and boy.


    That's 11 people right there, 12 with the girl friend! That's like half of wedding party with flowers.


    Wont that look odd? lol, I think it might be kinda of weired for the 15 people that do not get flowers but are still aunts and uncles.



    Can I just get away with giving flowers to the girls? Minus the girl friend, Can i skip boutonnieres? Would that be rude to the fathers? Do I need to give one to the Groom?


    lol....I think its already going to look lame with half the wedding party standing up. I keep telling my FI we are going to have no one to actually watch the wedding.


    I personally wouldn't mind doing with out people standing up and skip all of this. I am kinda annoyed I have to have so many people in the wedding vs. not in the wedding....Anyone else in a similar place?



    #2 VA_Bride

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      Posted 04 August 2010 - 02:44 AM

      I completely understand!  There are only going to be 12 of us total, including me and the FI, and 5 of us are in the wedding, plus the mothers of the bride and groom are getting corsages! Similar to you thats over half of the group. 


      I figured what the heck.  We knowingly kept if small and intimate for cost and personal reasons, so that is just how its going to be.  Now, my FI and his BM/groomsmen really don't care about flowers so they may not actually end up getting boutineers but I know that my sister as the MOH would like a bouquet and my mom and his mom would like to feel special and get something as well.  


      It does seem kind of funny to me, but I am learning not to sweat that kind of detail.  I am sure whatever you do will look good and will make all of your people feel involved and special. 

      #3 beaz2be

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        Posted 04 August 2010 - 12:17 PM

        I'm debating all of this too.  Unlike you we are having a BIG wedding (over 50 booked so far) - but that also includes BIG wedding party.  5 BMs, 5 Groomsmen... and then there is family... MOG/MOB, FOG/FOB... what about my brother (who will MC but not standing up) and grandparents???!!


        The list gets really big REALLY fast and the bouts and corsages at our resort are NOT cheap!  Sigh.  I'll be looking forward to any other brides' etiquette advice on this one.

        #4 TheFutureWagners

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          Posted 04 August 2010 - 12:29 PM

          I am wondering the same! We are having a huge wedding too and there will be 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen on either side and to be honest, I was thinking of doing corsages for the BM's, I know I definetely can't afford bouquets for all of those ppl! Our budget is big, but not THAT big!!


          My mom thinks I should have them do the one calla lilly idea or something, I'm not sure how I feel about it. I might see about a local flower market when I get down there and maybe do it that way...


          I know the groomsmen are all having bouts, and I would love for my pictures to have the bridesmaid's with bouquets but honestly, they are so pointless after the ceremony, it is a waste of money. I am interested to see what others are doing too.



          (I'm using parasols for pictures but don't want them down the aisle.)

          #5 akua420

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            Posted 04 August 2010 - 12:53 PM

            I'm just going to give flowers to my mom and for me, I'm not getting bout.s for the guys, they're not wearing suits anyways so it wouldn't look the same w/o the suit jacket.

            Gran Bahia Principe - Runaway Bay - February 22, 2011

            #6 skadow

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              Posted 04 August 2010 - 06:22 PM

              I talked to my FI tonight and he said he would be fine with just giving the mother's corsages and not having a bridal party.


              I would just walk down the with my father. Untill yesturday I was going to have a bridal party but my sister, my maid of honor decided she didnt want to come.


              We also talked that if we do end up having a bridal party just the women would get flowers, purple Calla Lillys. None of the men are wearing suits either, so it should be ok.


              Do you think the fathers woul dbe ok with this? It would save us a decent amount of cash, plus then I wouldnt feel bad about family that didnt get flowers, cause it would be only me and the mothers that did.

              #7 *Karla*

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                Posted 05 August 2010 - 06:18 AM

                Shadow, honestly I don't think anyone would notice/care anyway.  But you know your family...  My MOH and I had bouquets.  That's it.  DH and his BM were supposed to have bouts, but the WC forgot them in her room.  I didn't even notice until late in the evening.  No corsages for the mothers.

                #8 a&p_lenz

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                  Posted 09 August 2010 - 11:40 AM

                  I did everyone in the wedding and our parents.

                  #9 Kendall

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                    Posted 09 August 2010 - 11:43 AM

                    I'm not having a wedding party really - but figured I'd get flowers for me and my fiancee, parents and then my daughter and that's it.

                    #10 Dominican Ally

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                      Posted 21 January 2012 - 06:36 PM

                      I'm torn on this too. I think BM's will have bouquets, nothing for the GM's, mother of bride will have a corsage, and I of course, will have a bouquet....

                      My two grandmothers are coming though - thinking maybe they should have corsages too.......It's so hard to know where to draw the line...ugh!

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